I do this Forgiving Fridays series once per month to encourage you to forgive, to let go, and to make peace with yourself––in all areas of your life. Feel free to contribute your experiences, stories, photos, video, poetry…whatever connects you to the blessing of forgiveness. Simply tag this post & include #ForgivingFridays in your tags.
Below my post are contributions for #ForgivingFridays from this past month!
As many of you know, I’m offering a group on Self-forgiveness and Money. Participants choose a project and move toward completion (e.g., reducing debt, launching a business, building a website, etc.) It’s been so awesome to watch their projects unfold, sometimes in mysterious ways! One participant decided to check out moving to another country and had no idea this would be a part of his project.
My personal project has been about finding a new home that can serve as a place of peace for me personally––and for my expanding coaching practice!
I’ve traveled to Austin, to Phoenix, and to New York multiple times. I looked at different places to live. I put in an offer on a home––WOW! (See more on this below.) I practiced the principles that we worked with in the group. There were so many, and here are a few examples:
Gratitude – I practiced so much thankfulness for the beautiful home I’m in now. Having a great attitude is so important for success! (See this blog post for more on gratitude.)
Ideal Scenes – I created a really fun map of what I wanted in a home. This helped me to get a clear vision for what I want! (See this blog post for more on Ideal Scenes.)
Self-Forgiveness – I let go of judgments I have about money and my worthiness to receive a beautiful home!
Affirming New Beliefs – I identified old stories I had about money and replaced them with positive beliefs!
These last two skills are huge. Practicing Self-forgiveness is the biggest method I know to let go of what blocks you from creating what you want. Over the course of the group, what really helped me was working with childhood memories around money. (Money can touch in to a vulnerable place inside, and challenges are often traced back to messages that you received when you’re younger. Without addressing these beliefs, it’s easy to get stuck in your financial issues.)
More on that in a moment.
The money group ends this week. And just a few days ago, I put an offer on a property in Scottsdale Arizona that I loved. When I walked in, I felt like I was home. What an exciting move to complete my own project!
It turns out that 2 other people bid on the house as well. When I made my final bid, I offered the amount that felt like it was taking care of me––truly.
I found out this morning that I didn’t get the house. Someone else had put in a full-price offer.
I’m sad and loving myself through it. (I love myself so much.)
I’m also slowing down to heal judgments that may still be present, especially from an earlier time.
During the group, I did a “Money Autobiography” along with the other group participants. I asked myself questions like “What are my earliest memories about money?” I realized how much I’d felt like a burden to my grandmother––I moved from LA to NY when I was 5 after my parents divorced, and my nan took care of me when my mom went in and out of mental hospitals. I felt alone and devastated, and that I didn’t belong in my new home.
The decision I made at the time is that my needs are not important, and moreover, they will never be met. This one belief has resulted in my depriving myself of good things later in life, as well as my scarcity thinking “I don’t have enough” and “I’m waiting for the next calamity.” Updating this belief has made a tremendous impact on my life. (See my bio on the group page for more.)
One of the new beliefs that I stated for myself is:
My needs are important. Period.
I made this new belief come alive in the past few days with this house and I am so proud of myself! Every step of the way, I slowed down inside and asked what would be taking care of myself (financially and otherwise). I gathered all of my financial information, and I took that into consideration. And, I listened to my heart when I made the offer.
When I doubted my choices, I simply affirmed “I trust in my inner guidance.” And I stood in what was true for me, even if it meant I wouldn’t get the house.
This is living my new positive belief in action!
In this beautiful blog, I am ready to do more Self-forgiveness.
I forgive myself for judging myself for buying into the belief that my needs aren’t important––and that it’s not ok to take care of myself first. I forgive myself for judging myself as not having enough resources to create the home that I want.
The truth is so much more beautiful than that.
Right now, I am taking a pause to be still. To love that little girl who wanted to live in that home, and reminding her that I am taking care of her, and that I have all the resources to create a wonderful home. And, that my true home is inside.
What a perfect way to end the Self-forgiveness and Money group. (We wrap up tomorrow with a celebration group call!)
I trust that something even better is in store. I have faith in that. The most important thing is that I honored what was true for me and took excellent care of myself every step of the way. This is the biggest gift I could ever have received in this group.
And, I may still live in that home yet. Miracles can occur!!
To wrap up, here’s a photo of me in Phoenix with a dear friend. We were touring around (she gave me all the important sites so I was prepared if I moved 🙂 ), and we happened upon a building that had “We are Grateful” in big words.
What a perfect signal to me that I am abundant within and blessed by ALL of my experiences––including what happened as a child. I am standing in the confidence of working through it with forgiveness and grace.
I’ll keep you all posted!!
ps – this is my contribution to (1) Frank of Dutch Goes the Photo’s weekly challenge, rectangles (Frank I hope the shape of the building counts!) and (2) Trent’s Weekly Smile. Trent I thought I’d be sharing about owning a new home, and what I’m ultimately sharing is even better!
#FORGIVINGFRIDAYS POSTS FOR THE LAST MONTH:
Etta of Simply Etta D. did two amazing blog posts: one on how connection to our inner wisdom keep us true to ourselves, and a second on playing full out in your life and affirming you’re worth all the blessings. And she shares a beautiful story on her first trip back to the Bahamas in 5 years!
Frank of Poetry, Short Prose and Walking gave us a lovely poem that demonstrates how forgiving opens us to light and hope. 🙂 And how even the shadows contain love!
Pragalbha of Infinite Living shared a beautiful poem illustrating the power of knowing to see the truth and how our feelings aren’t all of who we are. A great reminder!
Lacey of BigandPinkyToes wrote a fantastic piece on going on maternity leave and learning how to make clear agreements with her husband on taking care of the baby. A key to healthy relationship!!
Bella of ThoughtsnLifeBlog contributed a beautiful sharing that illustrates the powerful method of being still to experience peace within. Truly exquisite!
Ali of Flashlight Batteries contributed a haiku that demonstrates the profound healing of nature to help you totally let go. Enjoy the presence of love so available in her poetry!!
Simona of With Love shared a beautiful photo with a quote that illustrates the power of connection to shape our entire lives…. Grazie, Simona!!
And from last month…
DeB of Roaming Urban Gypsy contributed beautiful posts, e.g., one about how she listened to a NYC homeless man who lost his dog, and another with the help she gives to people in the NYC shelter system. Thanks, DeB!
Revived Writer wrote a poem on how forgiveness unlocks our hearts and helps us let go of grudges. I experience each word as a sacred blessing of loving!
Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:
- Every day is Friday! Do a post today or anytime this week.
- Be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Write a poem, take a photo, post a quote, share your story … what opens your heart?
- Include #ForgivingFridays in your tags
- Create a pingback link to this post so I can find you.
- Have fun – you are awesome!