I do this Forgiving Fridays series once per month to encourage you to forgive, to let go, and to make peace with yourself––in all areas of your life. Feel free to contribute your experiences, stories, photos, video, poetry…whatever connects you to the blessing of forgiveness. Simply tag this post & include #ForgivingFridays in your tags.
Below my post are contributions for #ForgivingFridays from this past month!
I’d like to start today with a poem on Surrender. It epitomizes the experience I have when I forgive:
Surrender Unto Love
And in the
All things For-
The Love of
My post today is about pause––pause to be still, to surrender to the love. I’ve had a big few months with a lot of change, i.e.,
I left my job of 10 years to expand into full-time coaching….
I split up and got back together and split up and got back together with my partner 🙂 ….
I am no longer tied to LA and am searching for a new “Debbie does Forgiveness” location!
That’s a lot, and it’s time to tune inside, relax, and allow my inner guidance to speak to me.
I used to be scared to be still. I would do anything to fill up the time. I think I was scared what I would find when I looked inside of me, given that my mom was mentally ill. Then, as I got older, I let other people dictate what I would do, because I didn’t know how to be still and listen to myself. And then, I found Self-forgiveness.
The grace of forgiveness is that I love myself, I don’t need to go away from myself anymore. When I did that, it hurt tremendously.
This is a gift of untmost pricelessness. There is no amount of money that could buy the self-love of forgiving myself and that is so cool.
I have practiced Self-forgiveness every day for years now, and I forgive everything! From getting irritated at a partner, to having deep judgments about my capability to choose what I truly want in a place to live. Judgments about my body, about me “not belonging” in this world, and judgments more recently about the murder of my mom.
Doing this – facing all the parts inside that I didn’t want to see – is what has helped me most to know and love myself as I am, and to stand in the wisdom of my heart.
So, today and for the next few weeks, my intention is to simply be with myself. To envision what I truly want to live into each day, and to allow myself to play with what’s possible. My partner (we’re on again!) is at a spiritual retreat for a few weeks, so it’s a good time to pause with Debbie. All I know right now is that I’d like to move in the next month or two, and do a “Basics of Forgiveness” workshop in the fall.
And, if I look inside and find doubts, worries, fears, and old memories, I’m ok with that. Because I have a tool to work with myself and accept it all.
I’m so excited, to the point where I’m crying now. It’s been a long time coming where I’m ok with myself whatever I do or don’t do, whether I’m in relationship or not, no matter who likes me or doesn’t. I like me, and I am so looking forward to see what I come up with in my life! I am learning more and more each day to be — authentically — me.
And my intention is to gain altitude, to look at my life from the highest perspective and ask, “What is on purpose for me now?” This is a gift, and I’m ready to hear my own answers.
My spiritual teacher has an amazing quote, “It takes great courage to see the face of God because you first have to look at your own.”
To wrap up for today, here’s a video by a wonderful man on what happens when you forgive:
I also would like to contribute to Frank of Dutch Goes the Photo’s weekly challenge, which is “Outdoors” for this week. During the last month, I’ve been doing long runs (I think I’m training for a half-marathon!). Here I am pre- and post-run after going for an hour and 45 minutes. The experience of running early in the morning, with the light sun blessing my every step, is incredible.
If I do end up running a race, I’ll dedicate it to all of my readers! You are each such amazing people and contribute so much love to the planet with your willingness to read my blog and forgive.
Have a wonderful weekend (and happy fourth of July to those of you in the US). I love you.
ps – Feel free to email me with your experiences, or with questions on forgiveness, at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’m happy to help anytime!
#FORGIVINGFRIDAYS POSTS FOR THE LAST MONTH:
Etta of Simply Etta D. did blog posts every week! Here’s a summary: (1) one on how to consciously direct our focus to what matters most, (2) a second on the power of dreaming BIG to open to her goal of writing a book (yay), and (3) a third on beautiful quotes to stay inspired and appreciate yourself and your courage.
DeB of Roaming Urban Gypsy contributed beautiful posts, e.g., one about how she listened to a NYC homeless man who lost his dog, and another with the help she gives to people in the NYC shelter system. Thanks, DeB!
Revived Writer wrote a poem on how forgiveness unlocks our hearts and helps us let go of grudges. I experience each word as a sacred blessing of loving!
Frank of Poetry, Short Prose and Walking gave us a lovely poem on the grace of letting go and letting God. Such a simple act of great freedom and peace.
Pragalbha of Infinite Living shared a profound post on letting go of the outcome and letting our love lead us––and to honor every step of the way. A great method to get free!
Bella of ThoughtsnLifeBlog contributed a poem that illustrates how looking inside (such as through forgiveness) can open us to the healing grace of love’s presence. Truly exquisite!
Ali of Flashlight Batteries contributed a poem as inspiration for her year of openness”, where she asks “What if I only had one year to live?” and swim in the ocean of possibility. Who’s ready to accept the invitation?!
And from last month…
Nichol of A Kinder Way is back to blogging at WordPress and shares how she learned the importance of taking breaks––and being kind to herself. Welcome back Nichol!
Donna of Wind Kisses gave us a delightful post on how two friends’ requests came at perfect timing. She includes so many gems on listening and learning and loving. Plus a great blog title!
Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:
- Every day is Friday! Do a post today or anytime this week.
- Be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Write a poem, take a photo, post a quote, share your story … what opens your heart?
- Include #ForgivingFridays in your tags
- Create a pingback link to this post so I can find you.
- Have fun – you are awesome!