I’ve been doing this Forgiving Fridays series for a few years now. I started every Friday to work my own process of forgiveness, plus encourage you to forgive, let go, and make peace with yourself––inside and out.
More recently, I moved the series to once per month. I am now going to do something different, that is still revealing itself.
So, everyone, this is the last Forgiving Fridays post for a little while. It may be my last blog post, we’ll see about that!
Below, you’ll find contributions for Forgiving Fridays from the past month––they are beautiful (poetry, sharing experiences, and more). I invite you to keep exploring forgiveness in your blogs!
Take the time to be with yourself and love you. In my experience, forgiveness is the most direct way to make a safe space inside to dream and to express and to be authentically YOU.
I love you all.
And––here is my own contribution to Forgiving Fridays:
I’m moving to NY! Well, actually, I’ll be going there for 6 weeks and then we’ll see. It’s a Debbie NYC Adventure. 🙂
As many of you know, I’d put in an offer for a home in Scottsdale. It didn’t go through, and I knew that there was something different for me to do.
NY has stayed in my heart, ever since I moved to Brooklyn for a year in 2016. In fact, that’s where I started this blog!
It’s time for me to see what is the calling of my heart there. I used to be afraid of making a “wrong” decision, that I could do something to take me off track––and I don’t believe this anymore.
I am going there because life is too short to ignore what I truly want.
I had a fear of falling for many years. When I was a kid, I fell down 5 cement steps and landed on my forehead, when I was trying to prove how good I was to other kids. I carried this with me in my life even though the scar disappeared.
For so many years, I was looking at the fear, instead of my strength. I was married to a beautiful man, and I drank alcohol for much of our marriage––what if I made a wrong move and he stopped loving me? I threw up throughout the course of my 20s and into my 30s, because I was scared of who I was and to express that fully into the world. What if I “fell” and then where would I be?
I found this incredible practice of Self-forgiveness when I was in my early 30s and I’m so grateful. Year after year, I explored the judgments I had against myself, the people I loved, and so much more. I forgave myself for these judgments again and again, and this has created a safe space within me to find my authentic voice.
When I do forgiveness, I use a phrase “I forgive myself for judging….” This way, I’m forgiving the judgment, not the behavior. In my experience, this is the gem to get free––I let go of a “right” and “wrong” way to be and got deep inside that there is only learning.
It is this learning that gave me the courage to become a forgiveness coach. And now, go to NY.
On my most recent trip to Bulgaria, I climbed up a mountain and realized I wasn’t really that scared of climbing anymore. I had good shoes on, and I watched where I placed my steps. I “thought” that I was afraid, and then I really paid attention to what my experience was––and it was joy and confidence.
Here’s a great video of me afterward (it’s less than a minute):
And, here is a photo of me at Rila Lake in Bulgaria, after I went up the mountain. (The hat is a gift from my ex-partner David 🙂 . )
I am so grateful to share my experiences over the past few years with you. I have a smile on my face now. We created together a circle of kindness, of empathy, and of compassion for self and each other. Thank you.
I love you.
ps – This post is my contribution for Frank of Dutch Goes the Photo’s weekly challenge, Fall. It’s also my contribution to Trent’s Weekly Smile. Trent and Frank, thank you for doing your awesome prompts! I’ll be stopping this blog for a while and wanted to do a shout out to you both.
FORGIVING FRIDAYS POSTS FOR THE LAST MONTH:
Etta of Simply Etta D. did blog posts almost every week! Each one contains incredible nuggets to help you forgive and stand in your authentic strength:
Frank of Poetry, Short Prose and Walking gave us a powerful poem on how mindfulness can bring peace to our mind, and grace can carry us home. Totally beautiful!
Revived Writer wrote a poem on faith and how important it is to be good to herself when she doesn’t feel strong in it. What a true blessing to forgive yourself for judgments when you’re already feeling down!!
Ali of Flashlight Batteries contributed a poem on opening to the tender spaces inside…letting go of the walls and really allowing people in. What an act of loving.
Tikeetha of A Thomas Point of View gives good reason for setting boundaries and taking care of herself––which is so important. A first-time contributor, welcome!!
And a few highlights from last month…
Pragalbha of Infinite Living shared a beautiful poem illustrating the power of knowing to see the truth and how our feelings aren’t all of who we are. A great reminder!
Lacey of BigandPinkyToes wrote a fantastic piece on going on maternity leave and learning how to make clear agreements with her husband on taking care of the baby. A key to healthy relationship!!