Happy #ForgivingFridays everyone! 🙂
This is a creative prompt for you to write a post on letting go and forgiving, or what happens when you do that. You can do your post ANY DAY this week!
It can be anything that inspires YOU to choose love – or it can even be something you’d LIKE to forgive. For this week, how about experimenting with coming present to the gift of forgiveness, e.g.: write a letter to someone you judge, share a poem or photo, sing a song, or express gratitude. 🙂 Go for it!!
A client of mine asked how she could let go of right and wrong. She brought up examples of situations that to her seemed unforgivable, such as abuse or murder.
I suggested that she focus instead on a situation personal to her – one that brought up anger, frustration, sadness (some form of upset). She did that, and we walked step-by-step through the process of Self-forgiveness.
We used a simple phrase to do this: “I forgive myself for judging….” (For example, I forgive myself for judging myself as wrong for whatever I don’t like about myself. Or, I forgive myself for judging my husband, or mom, or dad for the same thing…..)
This is a profound shift from the usual way of doing forgiveness. It wasn’t really about her forgiving someone else, or even herself as a person. It was about her forgiving herself for judging herself and other people in her life as right or wrong —- simply by starting inside and staying with her reaction…even when it was uncomfortable.
My client was so courageous. She sat with her feelings and we used them to heal an issue inside of her. The thing that really helped her wasn’t about some situation out there, rather it was her inner experience of loneliness, hurt, that feeling of “I can’t handle this for one more minute.” Going with that brought forward the underlying thing she didn’t want to forgive.
In that moment, my client made essential contact with her heart. I saw take in her own loving (her whole face softened!). She let go of old stories that she bought into and lit up with possibility for what she wants to create in her life now. I was able to recognize it, because I have walked my own talk through years of bulimia and self-criticism, through my mom’s murder. I moved through the experience of deep grief and loss into joy, kindness, calm, and confidence. And so much more!
It is possible to get free from judgment and receive the endless gifts of Self-forgiveness. I am living testament to that, and I see it every time I watch someone take a leap of faith. I write this blog to offer a safe space for you to give it a try. From my heart to yours.
I love you!
#FORGIVINGFRIDAYS POSTS FOR THIS WEEK (and some from last week too!)
Etta of Simply Etta D. shared a poignant reminder of the importance of forgiveness to get free, to move beyond the inner hurts, and to live in the present. Transformational to forgive – miracles happen!
DeB of Roaming Urban Gypsy contributed a poem on the compassion and caring of a mother’s presence to heal and open us to forgiveness. In honor of her late mother, Mable!
Frank of Poetry, Short Prose and Walking wrote a poem with a beautiful dance of life, and when we let go, we can rest and embrace all things – even when they seem opposite. Gorgeous!
Ali of Flashlight Batteries contributed a poem on how courageous it is to live every day in the truth inside, and the incredible power of empathy for those who do not understand. So inspiring, Ali!
Sheila of OffShoots12 wrote an incredible blog of her willingness to forgive judgments of herself for how she spoke with a friend. This one decision can be life-changing!
Pragalbha of Infinite Living shared a thoughtful exploration of what gratitude truly is for her, and the ability to enjoy it freely and express the joy within. So courageous!
Revived Writer wrote a poem that helped her see the essence of forgiveness to illuminate the goodness in people. This radiates happy!
Miriam of Out An’ About wrote a heartwarming post on accepting what is and taking one step at a time. Our thoughts become clearer, we have more peace of mind, and abundance flows freely. Wow!
Kathy of KE Garland contributed a wonderful post on how she prepared for a challenging visit with her brother and sister-in-law. Excellent tips to let go and choose love – wow!
Iain of Iain Kelly Writing gave us a great short story demonstrating that each of us has perspectives that may well be different — forgiveness is a powerful key to bridge this. A first-time contributor, welcome!
Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:
- Every day is Friday! Do a post today or anytime this week.
- Be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Write a poem, take a photo, post a quote, share your story … what opens your heart?
- Include #ForgivingFridays in your tags
- Create a pingback link to this post so I can find you.
- Have fun – you are awesome!