Happy #ForgivingFridays everyone! 🙂
This is a creative prompt for you to write a post on letting go and forgiving, or what happens when you do that. You can do your post ANY DAY this week!
It can be anything that inspires YOU to choose love – or it can even be something you’d LIKE to forgive. For this week, how about experimenting with letting go of judgment, e.g.: share a poem or photo, sing a song, or write a short story. Go for it!!
My partner and I just got into a big argument. I can’t think of a better place to be than writing my forgiveness blog, because I am so committed to use everything for my upliftment. We are likely splitting up (not because of the argument, we’re just incompatible in a few ways.)
Firstly, he is such a beautiful guy. I love him and am so grateful for the lessons I’m learning in this relationship!
There’s so much I could say. For right now, I’d like to share a process I did with 3 questions to learn why I got so upset and help me make peace with myself. I took the time to breathe, tune into my heart, ask these questions, and accept / forgive myself. Here’s a video with what I did:
The 3 questions I used are:
What is a position that I am holding that is causing separation with another person?
What would it look like if I were to let go of that position?
What would I do differently?
(Source: Loving Each Day for Peacemakers by John-Roger, p. 27)
Our argument had to do with money. In this exercise, I realized that my partner was a perfect mirror for my Dad! What my partner did that “upset” me really had very little to do with my partner. It was a perfect opportunity to resurface old hurts I have about what my Dad did when I was a teenager.
My Dad didn’t pay for a lot when I was growing up. I lived with my mom, and we struggled to make ends meet. For me, he withheld money, and I felt unworthy and unlovable. As a teenager, I remember feeling like I was playing a charade — I was abundant only when he visited, and I thought I had to act a certain way to get money and love. I was angry and scared to tell him that. I focused on being a good student and daughter so I’d be “accomplished” and “worthy”. Whew.
I’ve already done a lot of forgiveness today. (You’ll hear a key one in the video!) It’s so important to create a quiet space & forgive all the judgments….to be really good and kind and accepting with what’s present.
Teenage years are such a time of learning who we are and what’s aligned for us. My situation was a lot for me to handle at that time! I did a great job exactly as I was then….and now. And no matter where my partner and I end up, I honor and respect him too.
This is such a healing of an old memory. I am currently in the process of updating old beliefs around money (and love!). Doing this can help me be more conscious in my relationships and is such a key part of the forgiving process.
This is really vulnerable for me to share. And, being vulnerable and honest is such a key for forgiveness.
For me today, as I am writing this blog and sharing my process with you, I am cheering myself on. My heart is open, and I love myself a lot.
I love you!
#FORGIVINGFRIDAYS POSTS FOR THIS WEEK (and some from last week too!)
Etta of Simply Etta D. shared a poignant reminder of the importance of forgiveness to get free, to move beyond the inner hurts, and to live in the present. Transformational to forgive – miracles happen!
Miriam of Out An’ About wrote a heartwarming post on accepting what is and taking one step at a time. Our thoughts become clearer, we have more peace of mind, and abundance flows freely. Wow!
DeB of Roaming Urban Gypsy contributed a series of her paintings that illustrate the power of creativity to open to the divine within, and great forgiveness. So beautiful!
Frank of Poetry, Short Prose and Walking wrote a poem on how empathy can help us forgive and turn walls into doors and see the fullness and beauty of who we all truly are. Gorgeous!
Ali of Flashlight Batteries contributed a poem on how courageous it is to live every day in the truth inside, and the incredible power of empathy for those who do not understand. So inspiring, Ali!
Pragalbha of Infinite Living shared a poem illustrating a sacred embrace of humanity and that what’s seemingly opposite may in fact all be the same underneath — it is ALL love. Gorgeous!
Revived Writer wrote a poem on the great importance of opening our hearts to love, no matter what the outcome. This takes such courage and willingness. Beautiful!
Kira of Eat.Create.Repeat gave us a story on how forgiveness is a safe road out of the judgments into who we truly are – free, forgiven, and completely loved. A first time contributor – welcome!
Iain of Iain Kelly Writing gave us a great short story demonstrating that each of us has perspectives that may well be different — forgiveness is a powerful key to bridge this. A first-time contributor, welcome!
Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:
- Every day is Friday! Do a post today or anytime this week.
- Be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Write a poem, take a photo, post a quote, share your story … what opens your heart?
- Include #ForgivingFridays in your tags
- Create a pingback link to this post so I can find you.
- Have fun – you are awesome!