It’s Money Mondays! I’m Moving…with Abundant Joy!

**This is my contribution for Trent’s Weekly Smile. It’s an awesome creative prompt to be positive – thank you Trent!**

I’m in a transition time.  My partner and I split up, and the place where I’ve been staying needs to know whether I’m continuing.

I really get that with these changes, I’m being called into the same process that participants of my Self-Forgiveness and Money group will be engaging in starting in May.  (It’s a 3-month group for people who want to let go of old stories about money and create more financial success—each participant chooses a project that has heart for them.)

What is next for me?

Best I know, my own financial project is a move–of abundant joy. What a great opportunity to demonstrate the program – and learn and grow – prior to the start of the group!

As a first step, I went to New York.  It’s a place that feels like home to me. I’ve been pulled to check it out as a possible place to live, plus I needed a fresh perspective.

I flew last week (business class) without a clear agenda, except this: to serve, to be bold, to take care of myself, and to invest in my dreams with God as my partner.  And to heal.

The funny thing is, the healing is where I still feel stuck.  I made amazing contacts, went to the United Nations and shared about forgiveness (read more on that here!), and set up numerous conversations to talk about coaching.  I even stayed at a place in Brooklyn – right nearby where I used to live – as a test to see if I wanted to live there.  And the person I’d be living with works at the U.N.!

Yet something is missing for me.  It’s the part that is grieving my partner. I miss him, even though it felt so natural to end the relationship.

To me there are no mistakes.  The fact that we split up NOW as I’m preparing for the Self-forgiveness and Money group – well, I think I have a healing opportunity that will open tremendous doors.

Here’s the thing.  This loss of my partner is bringing up an old memory for me of a little girl who lost her Dad.  When I was 5, I was living in LA with my mom and dad and brother.  I was happy and carefree, I remember dancing and expressing joy.  Then, my mom and dad got divorced, she started going into mental institutions, and we moved to NY to be with my Nan.  Thus was my life for the next 18 or so years.

I realize that somewhere inside of me, I grieve the loss of my old life.  I have a child inside who wants her dad.   From that moment on, I decided that I needed to find love out there, and that only a man could give me the life that I wanted. (Otherwise it was cold, dreary, and parent-less.)  And no way was it safe to express joy.

That is a powerful decision to make.  Much of my life has been influenced by it.  I spent years trying to prove my worth in jobs that weren’t my heart’s calling.  I looked for men who were stable and loved me so much that they wouldn’t leave.  And, I didn’t buy into the belief that I could have a beautiful, abundant life.

This all began to change when I discovered Self-forgiveness.  I got a Master of Spiritual Psychology and began, step by step, to know deep inside that I am love, and to create a life based on this knowing.

I began to make new outer choices that reflected my growing awareness.  I got divorced, created a new life in LA, invested my money wisely, and started coaching.  And, I healed an eating disorder for the last time, moving into vibrant health and self-care.

Here I am now in my next phase of choosing to go beyond my comfort zone.  And a crucial step in this is for me to grieve the loss and reassure the little girl inside that I love her, that it’s ok I’m not with my partner and that I’m making a change in my living situation.

That is where Self-forgiveness comes in.  It is a powerful opportunity to identify and get free from old stories that block me. To give acceptance and loving to those places inside where I bought into these beliefs. And strengthen what I know to be true.

I am so much more than where I live or what I do.

I don’t need to go to NY, although I could.  I don’t need to be with a partner, although I could.  All I need to do is be present in love and surrender the old beliefs to Spirit.  The rest will fall into place.

And to take one step at a time centered in the fullness of who I am with my little girl at my side. 🙂

This perspective is life-changing!

I’d like to end with a wonderful quote from Shams of Tabriz, who was Rumi’s teacher.  And a photo of me after my first 20 degree run in a long time!

 

 

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For this week, my action is to set an intention each morning to accept what is—-the simple act of acceptance can work wonders to let go and be available to what’s next.  Join me if you want to!

Have a wonderful week, everyone.

Love,
Debbie

If you have a project that you want to work on, or if you’re not happy in your life and want to make a change, I invite you to reach out to me.  We can talk about what you want and keys to help you.  My commitment is to serve you fully – and it’s completely fine whether or not you decide to do the group!

Email me at info@forgivingconnects.com or click on the graphic below:

 

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28 thoughts on “It’s Money Mondays! I’m Moving…with Abundant Joy!

  1. Living in New Hampshire i get plenty of those 20 degree runs 😉 Yep, it’s all a journey and sometimes a place can inspire us, but it is that place inside that is being inspired that is the important the most import place… I hope this transition period goes well 🙂

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  2. Hi Debbie! I often feel like the wise old owl. Like my grandmother who lived through more than you or I could ever imagine, it all comes down to heart and common sense. I would talk to her about everything under the sun, and her advice was always, “Love yourself, and love will come. Work hard. Think of others, not yourself. Be kind.” That was it, and she was right! We need to let go, not make things complicated, not over analyze, and not worry. Just follow our heart and good advice. Your move sounds wonderful!

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    1. Jennie, I must’ve reread this comment 2 – 3 times. 🙂 Thank you, and thank you to your grandmother. She sounds like an incredibly wise woman.

      Your comment is so great re: the simplicity of letting go and following our dreams. It’s an important reminder for me, this is probably part of why I’m a forgiveness coach. Definitely teach what I practice regularly!
      Love to you Jennie. You are a true sweetheart.
      Debbie

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      1. Thank you, Debbie. Yes, the simplicity of letting things go and following our dreams is central. Nan was wise. I was lucky to have her as a grandmother. Much love to you, Debbie. ❤️

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  3. Your post is infused with the power of surrender! Such amazing strength in your vulnerability my friend.
    “To me there are no mistakes” – that is one philosophy that I have lived on to the fullest I think. Every single situation has been my choice at whatever level of awareness it comes. And with it comes rejoice or a process of healing- often painful – but mine to go through.

    “I am so much more than where I live or what I do.” – I am not even going to comment on this except that it is filled with sheer conviction in the Beingness of our being.

    Wish you the most amazing ease and joy dearest Debbie!

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    1. Thank you so much, Pragalbha. I see how you live the statement “there are no mistakes”. You have an incredible learning orientation to life and demonstrate so much courage. I see it in your blog posts, and in your comments on my posts! I have one or two profound video on healing the lessons that come forward in life. They have been so helpful for me, personally. If you’d like to watch them, you can email me ok? My email is weloveyou@forgivingconnects.com.

      Sending you much love. Your contribution of “Focus” for the next Forgiving Fridays is awesome!! I’ll share it in March, either the first or second week. ❤
      Blessings,
      Debbie

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  4. Abundant Joy it is! What a beautiful and real completion for you. All is well. All is very well. Joy is a marvellous upward spiral, the best keeps getting better within our inner Spirit. There is no loss, only again. Blessings abound.

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  5. Wow, you have so much going on now, Debbie! Healing, transformation, forgiveness of your dad…This post reminds me of my little girl from long ago. My dad left my mom and our family after 23 years of marriage. I have forgiven him a very long time ago but the trust issue has surfaced in my own marriage, plunging me back in time as if I am that you g vulnerable girl once again. We are strong and happy yet I continue to have trust issues, afraid of my husband leaving since we’ve been married 23 years. It’s silly but I’m dealing with it, healing and building trust, for my husband hasn’t given me reason not to. I wish you healing, love and direction as you plan your move!😍❤️

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    1. Mary, I so hear you! It’s amazing how trust issues can resurface from a long time ago. ❤ I relate to that and so appreciate you for sharing with me. There's a wonderful process you can do – if you want to – on the Healing of Memories. I learned it when I studied spiritual psychology at the University of Santa Monica and it’s been so freeing for me (and I'm grateful for the continued lessons 🙂 ).

      Anyway, Mary thank you for your loving and empathic presence. Your comments truly brighten my day!
      Much love and blessings to you xo and a big hug,
      Debbie

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      1. Hi Debbie, I feel like I’m on the other side of it thankfully. I’ve been going to counseling and taking care of myself so the little girl returns where she belongs. I appreciate your support and friendship. I hope life is going well for you as you ponder on where to go now. Hugs😁❤️

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  6. Debbie. You are the strongest person I know! Your ability to embrace the struggle of grief as a means to make spiritual progress is awesome. I love your generosity and willingness to share. I love your beautiful soul (and yes, God is the only partner we really need, isn’t He!? He lends us souls for a while so that we can learn to perfect our love for all others.) Take care, Anita🙂🌼❤

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