It’s Forgiving Fridays! A Change for 2019 and Choose The Beauty Within :)

Hi everyone,

Happy New Year!!

For 2019, I’m going to make a change to my blog.  I decided to do Forgiving Fridays once a month, instead of every week.  Originally, I started Forgiving Fridays to invite each one of us to forgive.  To let go of the beliefs and judgments that you place between you and seeing the beauty of your own face….and the face of everyone around you.

Self-forgiveness is one of the greatest keys to making peace with yourself.  I hope that #ForgivingFridays has assisted you to experience even a little more of the peace that’s always present.  The more you are aware of peace inside, what you see outside becomes beautiful.

Please keep posting for #ForgivingFridays!  I’ll share all of your posts on the 1st Friday of the month. They are WONDERFUL. 🙂

Starting this Monday, I’ll be doing another prompt called “Money Mondays”.  It’s an opportunity to change your relationship with money and what you want to create in your life.  Self-forgiveness is a powerful tool to let go of limiting beliefs that block you from that!  More soon.

For today, I invite you to see your own beauty.  Isn’t 2019 a great time to REALLY let go of whatever you put in the way of knowing who you are?  🙂  It is for me!!  I’m ready and all in!

Here’s a forgiveness exercise for you!

I invite you to ask yourself three questions:

What limiting message(s) did I receive when I was younger that I’m ready to let go of?

What can I do right now to forgive my judgments and get free of the old story?

What’s present for me now?  🙂

 

Here are my answers:

I woke up this morning thinking about my mom.  I saw her go in and out of hospitals with mental illness when I was a kid.  Right before my eyes, she would lose it.  (I could see her eyes change, it’s like she would get lost.)  I thought that she was taking her love away, and that somehow this was my fault. I was so hurt. So for years, I rejected myself and took my own love away from myself, so that no one else could do it first.  And I would never again need to experience the hurt I felt in those moments.

I’m aware that I haven’t fully dealt with my hurt toward my mom for not loving me the way I wanted.  God that was hard.  So once again (because it’s continual practice), I forgive myself for all the judgments I placed… for judging my mom for getting sick in front of my eyes, for judging her as a bad mom.  And I forgive myself for judging MYSELF for not wanting to be with the hurt inside of me and for taking my love away.

I’m aware right now of great peace, and the blessing of my mom in my life.  She actually loved me very much.  She did it her own way and was dealing with her own stuff.  I’m learning how to give everyone the freedom to express love however they want – knowing that love is inside of me and is everlasting.

To wrap up, here’s a wonderful Rumi quote for you.  In case you can’t read it – I’m still working on my photoshop skills – it’s: “That which God said to the Rose, and caused it to laugh in full-blown beauty. / He said to my heart, and made it a thousand times more beautiful.”

 

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Happy New Year everyone!

Love, Debbie

**This post is my contribution for Frank’s photo challenge Floor and Trent’s The Weekly Smile, Frank, here are photos old and young of me on the floor – I learned so much between these years.**

 

#FORGIVINGFRIDAYS POSTS FOR THIS WEEK (AND SOME FROM LAST WEEK):

Etta of Simply Etta D. contributed a wonderful invitation to open to the possibilities of 2019 and to use acceptance as a key to change. Go, Etta!

DeB of Roaming Urban Gypsy contributed a beautiful sharing of her experience with letting go of the past and sharing her gifts as an artist.  And a great photo of her!!

Frank of Poetry, Short Prose and Walking wrote a poem that expresses such compassion and nurturing for our past hurts …. and the power of forgiveness to open to a future that sings in joy!

Ali of Flashlight Batteries wrote a birthday poem that captures the exquisite grace of this moment and our ability to write our own script. You sure have written one of great love Ali!  (Ali writes a birthday poem each year.  See last year’s here. J )

Pragalbha of Infinite Living shared her own quote image on how choices are full of wisdom when we work with forgiveness. Thank you Pragalbha – beautiful!  

Revived Writer wrote a gorgeous poem illustrating the power of love and peace. They are so much larger than anything that happens in this world!

Miriam of Out An’ About wrote a heartwarming post on anticipating the adventure of life and the year ahead. She invites us to know that something wonderful is waiting for us. Wow!

Kimberlee of Anotetohuguette shared her experience of what it’s like to walk in the stillness and be present with the recent loss of her father. Her courage and willingness to be with herself is incredible – thank you!

 

Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:  

  • Every day is Friday!  Do a post today or anytime this week.
  • Be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Write a poem, take a photo, post a quote, share your story …  what opens your heart?
  • Include #ForgivingFridays in your tags
  • Create a pingback link to this post so I can find you.
  • Have fun – you are awesome!

 

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30 thoughts on “It’s Forgiving Fridays! A Change for 2019 and Choose The Beauty Within :)

  1. Happy New Year! Blessed 2019! Wow! We have a lot in common besides our first names. My Mom had schizophrenia and I too thought that She didn’t Love me especially when I was younger. However She Loved me very much. Right before Daddy died in 1995 Mom finally got the proper treatment and medication for schizophrenia and She was better able to communicate Her intense Love for me and my brother Stephen. I had 3 good years with Mommy before she died in 1998. Every day I think about both my parents and realize as I get older how wonderfully Blessed I was.

    As for Money Mondays all I can say is Great Minds think alike. I’ve been working on changing my relationship with money through encouraging, uplifting and inspiring videos on YouTube that address this subject. I began watching the Motivational videos featured on YouTube in earnest after retiring August last year 2018. I’m learning to manifest money through appreciation, gratitude and Thankfulness.

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    1. DeB, wow what an amazing sharing. I love how you loved your mom, and saw how she loved you. Light to her Soul. 💜

      And, very cool on your changing your relationship with money. Yay! It can really help to get support to do that, especially with people who see you from a high perspective. Thanks for sharing your experience – and your keys for attracting money are awesome! Go, DeB.
      Love, Debbie

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    1. Oh, Kimberlee, you’re welcome. Your post is beautiful and so honest. This is really Self-honoring. I’m so glad that you’re able to take in the beauty again. Know that I am sending Light and blessings to you! Be in touch anytime. 😊
      Debbie

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  2. Happy NEw Year, Debbie. That is such a sad story about your Mum. I’d like to improve the relationship with my daughter as she is so aggressive towards me and it seems I can say or do nothing right. It’s not just me, others have noticed it as well.. I don’t bite back and just turn the other cheek so we don’t row. It makes me sad when I see other mothers with their daughters.So this year I am going to take her out and sit down and try and talk through her issues.

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    1. This is such a poignant sharing, thank you! I acknowledge you for wanting to listen to your daughter – it sounds like you really care about her and the relationship. I actually worked with a client who had issues with her mom (who was in her 90s!). She did a lot of forgiveness and healing around that, especially regarding her relationship with herself. It improved her relationships with her mom, and also her own daughter. If you’d like to talk more, I’m happy to do that. And good luck!!
      Blessings to you – and your family 🙂
      Debbie

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  3. Happy New Year, Debbie! Good to see some good changes coming up in 2019. By the way, we have family travel coming up in 6 days and I’ll be taking a blogging break until our return at the end of the month. Love, Miriam

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  4. Money Mondays it is… We seem to have skipped Saturday and Sunday, but I am sure they will be very forgiving about that!

    The lessons, blessings and gratitude come rolling in for me this New Year so far.Truly, it is an upward spiral as gratitude builds on gratitude and the beauty of Spirit in me grows a little bit brighter.

    Wishing you a very blessed New Year!

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    1. Anne, this is beautiful! Gratitude is so key, isn’t it? The learning ever present – or maybe I’m just more aware of it now. 😊 I hope yours are coming with grace, ease and joy.

      You are awesome and it’s so good to have you here to remind me and others on my blog of the immense blessings! I love you, Anne. Happy New Year to you 💞
      Love and Light,
      Debbie

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      1. I would love to hear more about your own experiences with money and self-forgiving. Sharing your lessons are a great blessing for me. Thank you!

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  5. Debbie,
    Thank you for the powerful questions. I see that they can open new doors for me.
    I appreciate that you have shared my poems with your readers. I hope they will provide a sense of connection and inspiration.
    Happy New Year. I hope it is filled with loving connection for you and all that you serve.

    Be well my friend,
    Ali

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    1. Ali, I’m glad the suggestions here may open doors for you! Let me know how it goes, if you want to. And, thank you for contributing your poems for #forgivingfridays! When I read them, I’m uplifted. 💜 It’s an honor to share them for my readers too.

      I love our connection, Ali. Sending you blessings of Light for your New Year.
      Love,
      Debbie

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  6. Debbie, thank you for sharing about your mom and your pain. The pain a child feels when we don’t understand, stays with us a very long time. Your words and forgiveness are powerful. And the questions you ask have me contemplating my own childhood and whether or not I am still carrying some things that maybe I haven’t quite finished sorting through or forgiving. Powerful questions! Thank you. Happy New Year! Terri

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    1. Terri, thank you for your thoughtful comment. I am so touched by your caring! And, I’m glad that the questions are inspiring you to contemplate your own childhood and any unfinished business there. That is such a gentle and Self-honoring way to be with yourself!! Let me know how it goes if you want to. (My email is info@forgivingconnects.com.) Blessings to you, Terri.
      ~Debbie

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  7. I’m glad you are scraping Forgiving Fridays but excited for the new addition!!
    Also, “it’s a continual practice. . .” good reminder. . . but it can be so hard.
    As always, thank you for sharing, Debbie! I hope you have great week .

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    1. Thank you, Lacey! I’m excited for Money Mondays too. Let me know if there’s a topic on money and forgiveness that you’d like to explore – and I’m happy to include it. 🙂 And, I saw that you are doing a Meet and Greet. So sorry I haven’t made it over …. sending so much Light and love to everyone who participates.

      I love you Lacey. You are amazing. Blessings — Debbie

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    1. I so hear you and appreciate what you’re sharing. To me, you are doing such great work by being with yourself when you’re struggling to accept things – and you have such courage to express that. And, you don’t have to do this alone. I am happy to talk further, if that’s something you’d like to do. (My email is info@forgivingconnects.com.)

      I love your poem! I love how honest you are – and yep, forgiveness is a continual practice, at least for me. Each step of the way can be a true blessing to love more even non-acceptance. 🙂

      Have a wonderful rest of your week. Blessings — Debbie

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