It’s Forgiving Fridays! Today’s topic is Forgiving & Intimacy

Happy #ForgivingFridays everyone! Yay!

This is a creative prompt for you to write a post on letting go and forgiving, or what happens when you do that.  You can do your post ANY DAY this week!

It can be anything that inspires YOU to forgive and choose love – even if you’re struggling.  e.g.: write a poem, share a quote or video, do an act of kindness, forgive yourself or someone else. 🙂 I look forward to see what you do!

**This is my contribution to Frank’s photo challenge, Lift and Sue Vincent’s Thursday challenge. Thank you both!**

I had a dream last night that I was looking at a couple’s relationship from down near the ground.  What I realized is that I was seeing my potential move with my partner through the eyes of a child.

I’ve been feeling pretty scared to move in with him.  I have all these memories flooding in of my mom’s mental illness – how she would sit on the couch and do nothing, and how she would want so much from me. I took responsibility for her life and I remember feeling suffocated at times.

Today, I woke up with a different perspective.  What if, this move was designed EXACTLY to bring up those old experiences for healing?  I knew that I still had some judgments about my childhood, and feeling like I couldn’t get away.  Now, because of this move – and the possibility of doing it with David – I get to look at it, air it in the open, and learn.

I was feeling a little stuck in the emotion of it, SO I decided to go walk the Santa Monica stairs to help observe and lift me into my loving.  (Exercise is a great way to do that.)  Here are before, during, and after photos:

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As I walked the stairs, I was able to do forgiveness.

I forgive myself for judging myself for not knowing all the judgments inside about my mom.

I forgive myself for judging myself for feeling scared that living with David is going to be like living with my mom.

And I BREATHE ….  I let go …. And I am so grateful for this coming up.  It’s time to heal this.

The truth is, I am not responsible for my mom and her life.  I am not responsible for David and his life.  I have every right (in fact, it’s good self-care) to set boundaries and take care of myself.  AND a biggie: I am safe to open my heart.  I am loveable because I am.

This holiday weekend, David and I are going to look at apartments together.  My inner commitment is to be fully present, ask for Spirit’s help, PLAY with David, and trust my inner guidance.  And if I doubt or get scared, I am with myself 100% and lift into love.

I’d like to end with a photo from David and quote from a spiritual mystic poet Hafiz. They both remind me to open to the endless possibilities of forgiving and love.

I love you.



I am SO SO grateful for all of you who contribute to Forgiving Fridays.  I learn so much from you!  Here are contributions from this week & some from last week too – they were magnificent:

Etta of Simply Etta D. gave us an incredible poem on what happens the day that we die – with an invitation to live every day fully. Etta, you are such a presence of love in this world.

Frank of Poetry, Short Prose and Walking contributed a poem on the exquisite compassion of forgiveness to heal childhood memories. Includes an audio rendition!

Elsie of Ramblings of a Writer wrote an poem using the Abhanga form.  It includes so many keys to forgiveness, such as acceptance, altitude, and awakening to inner Light.

Miriam of Out an’ About wrote an awe-inspiring post with tips for living life to the fullest — including doing our best AND taking a pause to rest.  Her photo of resting is adorable!

Revived Writer shared how forgiveness helped her heal old memories of not speaking up at school.  What an act of love – and writing poetry now illustrates her incredible growth!

Anita of Healing Words wrote a heart-warming poem on letting go of the past and opening to the blessings that come with change – and the divine inside of each one of us. So simple and powerful!  J


Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:  

  • Every day is Friday!  Do a post today or anytime this week.
  • Be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Write a poem, take a photo, post a quote, share your story …  what opens your heart?
  • Include #ForgivingFridays in your tags
  • Create a pingback link to this post so I can find you.
  • Have fun – you are awesome!

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44 thoughts on “It’s Forgiving Fridays! Today’s topic is Forgiving & Intimacy

      1. Oh I love your poem! Expressing your fears is honest and self-honoring – and so courageous to rise above them. I appreciated reading how you reassured and encouraged yourself, such keys to forgiveness.

        Thank you for this contribution! I’m sending much love to you in your process of making peace inside of you. ❤
        Blessings, Debbie

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    1. So true, Karen! Thank you for your caring and encouragement. One of my favorite things about forgiveness is how much it helps to free me to see what is. ❤ Many blessings – and I see that you contributed to #ForgivingFridays. (Great) I'll have a look now. ~Debbie

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    1. I’m so happy for you in your retirement, DeB. Congratulations and many blessings for what’s next for you! Yay that you’ll have a blog for this Friday 🙂 Your photo collages are so awesome and full of life and love. ❤
      Have a great Labor Day, and love,


  1. Hi Debbie, I’m so proud of you for making such a big decision. I’m sure this will bring healing into your life. I agree with you, you are not responsible for my mom and her life. You are not responsible for David and his life. The battle is half won, when the big move comes true healing will begin. Thank you for allowing me a space to share my blogs….Wishing you richest blessing, guidance from spirit and love and light always ❤ ❤ ❤ Love you!

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  2. What joy to read your post yet again 🙂 It is possible to open up to every single experience we have, with the perspective of, how it is really serving us. It is in this appreciation and gratitude that lies so much of he magic of life. Forgiveness and acceptance become easy to practice. Much Love, Ease and Joy as you keep choosing positively and courageously my friend!

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    1. You said it, Pragalbha! I love how you get the essential truth of my blog and share it in your comments. You are a blessing! I hope you’re having a beautiful Labor Day weekend. Seeing you and your sons and your blog filled with love and Light 🙂 ❤ . Blessings, Debbie ps – I love that you mentioned gratitude / appreciation…my 3-step process of forgiveness ends with gratitude! It's such a powerful way to see through the eyes of love.

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  3. Hi Debbie, It’s great that you could finally shake off the fear and realize that nobody is responsible for someone else’s life. And, our happiness lies in our hands or minds. The healing process starts from here…love to you for bringing out the fact, so nicely… ❤ ❤ 🙂

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    1. Thank you, Maniparna! This is so beautiful. ❤ You have a lovely way of sharing that goes right into my heart. Hope you are having a wonderful weekend. I'm about to go and read your latest post!
      Sending you much happiness and blessings of love.

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    1. Thank you Emily! I so appreciate you. And my weekend was wonderful – hope yours was too! Sending you loads of happiness for this week. 🙂 Blessings, Debbie
      ps – I loved your Caturday on Sunday. Great photos.


  4. May love lift every apartment you visit today, and by the end of the weekend, your love has just lifted you higher than you could have ever imagined – for the highest good of course! Blessings!

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  5. I love this post Debbie, as it so mirrors my own challenging experiences, with both my Mum when I was a child, & now as an adult exploring relationships & true intimacy in new ways. Thank you for your honesty & courage in sharing your fears. I honour you for facing & naming your wounds, which of course will make them easier to heal, I’m sure. Bless you in your apartment hunting- that’s very exciting! xx G 🙂

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    1. Oh Gabrielle, thank you! I can experience your empathy through your comments. I appreciate that, and you.
      Sending you Light and love as well in your adventure of intimacy and relationship – boy what an adventure it is! I’m checking out an apartment as I write this, and on the phone with my partner. One step at a time.
      Bless you G,

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