Happy #ForgivingFridays everyone! Yay!
This is a creative prompt for you to write a post on letting go and forgiving, or what happens when you do that. You can do your post ANY DAY this week!
It can be anything that inspires YOU to forgive and choose love – even if you’re struggling. e.g.: write a poem, share a quote or video, do an act of kindness, forgive yourself or someone else. 🙂 I look forward to see what you do!
One of the most beautiful opportunities that self-forgiveness gives is the healing of memories.
Ever since I was a little girl, I had a part of me that felt unlovable. I moved when I was 5 because my mom and dad got divorced – from sunny California to NY in wintertime. All of a sudden, I was without my dad, it was cold, and I was in a bad place with my mom. She had mental breakdowns from that point on until I graduated high school.
I remember walking through that house (it was my grandmother’s house, she took us in) and feeling so lost and alone. It felt dark, my Nan and mom had a tense relationship, and I had a lot of emotions without having anyone to help me with them.
Now, here I am about to move – again! One of the greatest actions I can take at this time is to connect with that little one and let her know she’s safe with me. And to simply be with memories that resurface, forgive any judgments, and love myself. I have a neat practice to do this:
It’s a four step process I do every night before I go to bed.
You’re welcome to try it out too, it’s a wonderful opportunity to try out forgiveness.
Step 1: Center yourself in yourself.
I put my hand on my heart and ask for the most loving presence to be with me. And I breathe in and out to come present.
Step 2: Invite your little one forward.
Right now, I open my arms and ask my 5 year old to come over and I give her a hug! I pay attention to what she needs. After this blog I’m going to visit a home and she’s scared about that – will she be happy? J (Pause for hug break!)
Take time with this step. It’s so important to be with yourself and to listen to that little one. If you’re anything like me, you may want to rush through this.
Step 3: Do self-forgiveness.
To do this, identify judgments that you’re holding. This is anything that disturbs your peace. Hint: What are you upset about? What “should” have been different? Then, forgive yourself for placing the judgment. (For more on how to do self-forgiveness, click here
I forgive myself for judging myself for feeling scared to go see this home. I forgive myself for judging myself as alone and lost in my house hunting. I forgive myself for judging myself for not wanting to pause and feel these feelings!
Step 4: Give yourself loving.
I talk with my little girl and ask what else she needs to feel loved. Then, I write it down so that I can get a greater understanding of what love is for me. For today, she just wanted reassurance that everything is ok:
“Living love is making peace with old memories and reassuring myself that everything is ok. I love and support me.”
If you decide to do this, I’d love to know how it goes for you. 🙂
I’d like to end with a quote from one of my poems and a photo that reminds me of the peace I experience when I really listen to myself and heal memories through self-forgiveness. I took the photo during my travels last week at an event called a Blessings Gathering. We shared our gratitude and asked for blessings for ourselves, our loved ones, situations, and the world.
Forgive. In the forgiving is peace. -Debbie Roth, DSS
I love you.
**This is my contribution to Frank’s photo challenge, Scene and Sue Vincent’s Thursday challenge. Frank, I include a scene from my travels that encapsulates how I touch into peace with old memories when I forgive. Sue, your photo reminds me of the Light that comes in when I do Self-forgiveness. Thank you!**
I am SO SO grateful for all of you who contribute to Forgiving Fridays. I learn so much from you! Here are contributions from this week & some from last week too – they were magnificent:
Etta of Simply Etta D. gave us a list of quotes that offer such wisdom on how to live from our hearts. I truly hope everyone reads them – they are incredible!!
Frank of Poetry, Short Prose and Walking contributed a gorgeous poem that demonstrates how peace can touch us when we forgive. Includes two unique photos!
Pragalbha of Infinite Living shared a poem on living from our heart as an incredible place to live life from. What a lyrical and happy poem – it inspired me!
Revived Writer shared how forgiveness helped her heal old memories of not speaking up at school. What an act of love – and writing poetry now illustrates her incredible growth!
Miriam of Out an’ About gave us so valuable tips and techniques for us to let go of an overactive mind (God bless them). A wonderful way to forgive and be authentic!
Anita of Healing Words wrote a heart-warming poem on letting go of the past and opening to the blessings that come with change – and the divine inside of each one of us. So simple and powerful! ❤
Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:
- Every day is Friday! Do a post today or anytime this week.
- Be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Write a poem, take a photo, post a quote, share your story … what opens your heart?
- Include #ForgivingFridays in your tags
- Create a pingback link to this post so I can find you.
- Have fun – you are awesome!