Today’s forgiving journal is about the courage to forgive.
I did a forgiveness video today with simple tips to forgive when we REALLY don’t want to forgive.
That made me think, What is it that I don’t want to forgive? If I’m doing this forgiving work … if I’m really walking my talk … then I need to look at the exact thing that I am resisting. (And a dear mentor once said, “Pain x resistance = suffering)
What I don’t want to forgive is this feeling that I’ve been abandoned. I could go into the story of it, and I don’t really see it as necessary. I’m going to pause to see what is necessary to share. OK, what’s necessary to share is that I so want someone to take care of me. It feels like my heart hurts, and I have such a frowny look on my face, of a very deep hurt.
When it comes right down to it, I feel alone sometimes. God that hurts.
I’m going to do the simple tips from my video as my forgiving process for today:
1 – Get it out: UCH I DO NOT WANT TO BE ABANDONED!! Don’t leave me alone. 😦
2 – Pause and put my hand on my heart: Done
3 – Take 3 deep breaths: Done!
4 – Say “I love and accept myself exactly as I am”: I love and accept myself exactly as I am.
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What I’m aware of right now is a smile on my face, more relaxed shoulders, and loving softness in my eyes. Also a gratitude that I did that video this morning, because it really helped me with this right now.
I love you!
Love,
Debbie
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Very inspiring post Debbie. It’s allowing ourselves to feel the emotion and then once we get acquainted with it, we make the decision to detach ourselves from it-acceptance and moving on! 🙂
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Thank you Nina!! That reminds me of a workshop at my spiritual org called “Detachment and Freedom” – it’s one of my favorites. Blessings to you ❤
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😊❤
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You’re awesome
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Very inspiring to me, Debbie. I can relate to the idea of abandonment and wanting to be taken care of. All of God’s blessings to you!
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Oh thank you Anne. And to you, my friend. Beloved ❤
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Debbie, Great piece as always, and love this quote – I am such a quote addict – life is possible !!
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Me too!! 🙂 And thank you. Just saw another great one by Lao Tzu: “Without going outside, you may know the whole world.”
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Great reminders. Life is so hard at times. You are doing great.
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Thank you! It can certainly feel hard. 🙂
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This one got me. Hugs Debbie. ❤
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Right, Nikki? Me too. 💖
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Hugs to you too Nikki 💝
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Thank you for posting it. Liked a lot!
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I’m so glad! Sending many, many blessings your way. So glad you are following my blog. Your presence is very welcome. I read your post ❤ Great work.
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Thank you so much for reading mine too! Was very challenging to do my first post and English is not perfect yet. Sending blessing on your way too😊
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