I do this Forgiving Fridays series once per month to encourage you to forgive, to let go, and to make peace with yourself––in all areas of your life. Feel free to contribute your experiences, stories, photos, video, poetry…whatever connects you to the blessing of forgiveness. Simply tag this post & include #ForgivingFridays in your tags.
Below my post are contributions for #ForgivingFridays from this past month!
Yesterday, I got a phone call from my Dad’s lawyer.
He was in an assisted living facility, after being in ICU for a period of time. And, his home is unlivable. (i.e., it’s a hazard zone.). This was an incredible shock to hear.
After being on the phone much of the day, I found out that my dad’s home was full of junk, with a hole in the ceiling and more that I won’t go into here. And, he’d stopped eating so he became weak and deficient in a number of nutrients.
I cried a lot. I don’t know what else to say except to share this…
A flood of memories came back to me over the day, and I realized that this situation is an opportunity––a gift, even if it doesn’t seem that way––to heal old memories. I’d had numerous judgments about me, and my dad, that I’ve let go of over the years, and yet something still remained for me.
I still have a kid living inside of me who thinks that I am responsible for my Dad. That somehow, I should have taken better care of him and been a better daughter. If I’d only done this, he would love me the way I yearned for (through my teenage years especially!). And, even though I have made peace inside, I have an important next step now: to tell that little one that it wasn’t her fault, that she didn’t do anything wrong, that Mom and Dad were working things out that had nothing to do with her …. And most important, to tell her that I am with her. Always.
This is often called “healing of memories” in the spiritual psychology work I did at the University of Santa Monica. The essence is talking to that younger part who feels hurt and bought into beliefs that aren’t true or supportive (e.g., I did something wrong, I’m not lovable, I am responsible for others, etc.). It starts with allowing the hurt to come forward and holding a container for that little one to know it’s ok to let go––and move on.
The thing about my Dad is he taught me so much about how to be grateful for people as they are, not as I want them to be. I remember saying “thank you” to a photo of my Dad and stepmom for years to build an energy of gratitude and grace.
Once again, Dad, thank you.
Here’s a photo of me and my Dad in 2013, when he came down to my home in Santa Monica:
And, I’d like to contribute to Frank’s Weekly Photo Challenge––which for this week is technology (it’s what brought us all here right?!)
Here’s a photo of me with my BRAND NEW Mac. It’s what I plan to do all of my forgiveness blogs on, see my coaching clients, and otherwise spread the love. 🙂 What a beautiful avenue to connect.
Have a wonderful weekend. I love you.
#FORGIVINGFRIDAYS POSTS FOR THE LAST MONTH:
Etta of Simply Etta D. did two blog posts: (1) one on cultivating the art of happiness––with great tips to do in our lives and (2) a second on the passing of her Aunt Carla and how she learned to sing and celebrate life in the now!
DeB of Roaming Urban Gypsy contributed a beautiful sharing of her experience with letting go of the past and sharing her gifts as an artist. And a great photo of her!!
Frank of Poetry, Short Prose and Walking wrote a poem that expresses the depth of forgiveness beyond the words ––they are only a part of life. There is such loving in his poetry!
Ali of Flashlight Batteries contributed a poem of courage to reach beyond what is expected, or even our genetics, and extend ourselves into higher consciousness. So inspiring!
Jennie of A Teacher’s Reflections shared an incredible story of a crossing guard who reaches to kids who don’t want to talk or are surly and withdrawn. This a shining demonstration of caring in action!
Anita of Healing Words contributed a great post on advice to her younger self. She includes a creative slideshow full of wisdom––e.g., kindness, looking inside for wisdom, stillness, & empathy!
And from last month…
Pragalbha of Infinite Living shared two posts: (1) a poem that elegantly describes relationships based on unconditional loving and (2) a process to help her release self-judgments and be more confortable with herself—it includes pausing to be still. Beautiful!
Revived Writer wrote a poem on embracing new beginnings – and how no matter what is happening, joy is always present and being created anew. Amazing writing!
Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:
- Every day is Friday! Do a post today or anytime this week.
- Be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Write a poem, take a photo, post a quote, share your story … what opens your heart?
- Include #ForgivingFridays in your tags
- Create a pingback link to this post so I can find you.
- Have fun – you are awesome!