Happy #ForgivingFridays everyone! Yay! This is an opportunity for you to let go and forgive. You can do your post ANY DAY this week! Anything that inspires YOU to forgive and choose love – even if you’re struggling. e.g., write a poem, share a quote or video, do an act of kindness, forgive yourself or someone else. 🙂 I look forward to see what you do!
Today’s Forgiving Fridays is it’s ok to struggle.
This week, I spoke with a woman doing a forgiveness documentary about the murder of my mom. I shared a story that happened a few months before she died.
We were at a doctor’s appointment for her, where they had to put eye drops in her eyes. They told her there was a .00000005 % chance that something bad could happen as a result of the drops. She came back in the waiting room so that the drops could dilate her eyes.
As we were waiting there, she stressed out and said to me, “What happens if I die?” (My mom was mentally ill and a bit of a hypochondriac.) I responded, “Mom, if you die, that just means you’ll get to go to God quicker.” This really touched her, well I think it did anyway. I know it touched me.
My mom loved God, and the thought that I may have made her transition easier with what I said moves me beyond measure.
Photo credit for butterfly: My partner, David Sand. 🙂
Later on this week, a friend asked me if I forgave Jamie, the person who murdered her. I don’t know if I have. What I do know is that forgiveness for me is an act of faith, that underneath everything – no matter how much it seems bad or horrific – there is only the presence of love.
My mom would have been the first person who forgave Jamie. Mom, I don’t know where you are right now, except that I know you saw through the eyes of love…and I am committed to do this in my life.
There’s one more piece that I’d like to share, and that is, it’s ok to struggle in the process of forgiveness. It’s ok not to know how to forgive, or to see a way out. I have found the greatest release when I say, “God I don’t know how to forgive.” I’ve cried with anger. I’ve cried with not knowing. I’ve cried with not feeling the love. Somehow, this provides a space inside of me for the love to enter.
Photo credit on left: My partner, David Sand. 🙂
So hang in there. Know that you are so supported. Take one small step at a time to forgive. Be gentle with yourself. Miracles can happen inside of you. There is Light at the end of the tunnel.
Mom, this post was for you. I love you.
I am SO SO grateful for all of you who contribute to Forgiving Fridays. I learn so much from you! Here are this week’s contributions:
Etta of Simply Etta D. gave us wonderful keys on how to create clear intentions, so we can live into our authentic selves and awaken to who we truly are. Plus read Etta’s great example of hers!
DeB of Roaming Urban Gypsy contributed two creative posts! The first is her acrylic painting on “watching the closing doors”, and the second is a collage of nature photos depicting loving what we judge. Thank you, DeB!
Revived Writer contributed a poem that illustrates the freedom of forgiveness in such a unique way! There is such great love in her post – I almost cried!
Frank of Poetry, Short Prose and Walking wrote a short story on gratitude and an older woman’s love for her sweetheart long ago. A heart-warming memory of embracing life!
Pragalbha of Infinite Living shared a personal story of a shift she went through in India, where she learned an incredible lesson on seeing everyone through the eyes of love. A great example of nonjudgment and forgiveness!
Nikki of A Kinder Way gave us an incredible encouragement to love ourselves, to value ourselves and to be really kind to ourselves. Plus a powerful quote to illustrate!
And in case you missed it…
Miriam of Out An’ About shared a beautiful post on embracing herself no matter how she’s feeling and allowing her dreams to come present. Includes an original graphic on living in the moment!
I’d like to end with a quote from a great book, Remembering the Light Within by Drs. Ron and Mary Hulnick. It’s a great book on how to connect with the love inside of us and live from that place practically and using simple tools to get free:
“The French word for “wound”, blessure, has the same root as “blessing”. In this we find evidence of the Divine Perfection – and thus the Skill of Reframing Issues as Blessings. The very things that “wound” you are, in fact, the vehicles that when properly utilized become rungs on the ladder of your Spiritual Awakening, assisting you in realizing your Essential Nature – Divine Love.”
I love you.
**This is my contribution to Frank’s photo challenge, Treat. Frank, being with my mom in the last days of her life is a treat beyond measure. I learned so much from her death, and I still am awakening to its gifts for me.**
Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:
- Every day is Friday! Do a post today or anytime this week.
- Be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Write a poem, take a photo, post a quote, share your story … what opens your heart?
- Include #ForgivingFridays in your tags
- Create a pingback link to this post so I can find you.
- Have fun – you are awesome!