Happy New Year & Happy #ForgivingFridays everyone! Yay! This is an opportunity for you to let go and forgive & post about it ANY DAY this week! See guidelines below. ❤ You can post whatever inspires YOU to forgive and choose love. Maybe it’s a poem, or a photo or inspiring quote, or you can share an old habit you let go of like I did.
Today’s Forgiving Fridays is Letting Go of Old Habits (yay!).
As you may know, I have a 3-step tool to help me do forgiveness: (1) Self-forgiveness; (2) Letting Go; and (3) Gratitude.
I’d like to focus on LETTING GO today. What old habits can I let go of, and how?
Well, this morning I kept seeing myself drinking a yummy drink from my new Vitamix. I realized that today, this is my way to forgiveness. Let me explain.
When I was growing up, I had a tough time being nurtured. My mom and dad split up when I was young, and my mom brother and I moved into a little apt. I don’t remember a lot about that apartment, except that I was unkept (my mom was mentally ill and couldn’t take care of herself, much less two kids I suspect). I have a sense of me with knotty, wild hair.
So…. I never quite learned how to nurture me. How to take care of and appreciate myself. I developed a little, shall we say, limiting thought that I am not worthy of love. And certainly not worthy to pause & receive love.
My spiritual teacher has a great saying, “The doing of it does it.” (or something like that) Forgiveness for me is a direct action to give myself the message that I love myself, I am worthy of taking care of myself, and that I am choosing to receive it each time I say, “I forgive.”
AND now here I am. I choose to forgive today by doing an act that take care of my body – it’s like I’m bringing healing to that little girl by giving myself the self-care I was so looking for. ❤
So today, in my own kitchen, in my gorgeous Light-filled home, I made a new Vitamix drink to take care of myself. This is huge, because I talked for years about making greens drinks! And as I blended the drink, I repeated to myself “I love myself, I forgive myself.” I even put on a sparkly pink scarf on my wrist to show my little girl how joyful it is to nurture myself with good, healthy food.
This is a simple and ordinary way to have a direct experience of loving myself from that part in me that knows who I am.
I paused at the end and I gave thanks to my mom with a cup “Cup of Sunshine”, which she would have loved. Because without my mom, I never would have stepped into this experience of compassion, of kindness, and of the peace of letting go of old habits. I love you mom.
I am SO SO grateful for all of you who contribute to Forgiving Fridays. I learn so much from you! Here are this week’s contributions:
Etta of Simply Etta D. gave us a wonderful post (and very sweet photo) with an invitation to listen to that inner voice of courage … great illustration of forgiveness and standing in love. Bless you, Etta! ❤
DeBorah of Roaming Urban Gypsy shared her creative writing and how this helps her to focus on the positive – so true! Here’s an example from her blog. Thank you for your joyful energy, DeB!
Miriam of The Shower of Blessings gave us a magnificent post on counting her blessings – what a tender way to see through the eyes of love. Welcome back Miriam! ❤
Frank of Poetry, Short Prose and Walking contributed a simple and profound poem (with gorgeous photos!) on gratitude and on the different ways that birds fly. There are many avenues to forgive, all part of the exquisite dance of life.
Pragalbha of Infinite Living gave us two exquisite posts – the first is reflections on how to be in a healthy relationship & the second is a poem on opening to the grace of her unique self-expression …. with such caring and joy.
Nikki of A Kinder Way wrote a post on a new exercise program that really works for her. She stayed committed when she could have given up — and found a fun & balanced way to love herself. Go Nikki!
And in case you missed it from last week: 🙂
Ali of Flashlight Batteries wrote a gorgeous poem on releasing shame and accepting and loving ourselves exactly as we are. An exquisite way to heal and let go!
Xenia of Whippet Wisdom shared a tanka and heartwarming video that illustrate how wonderful life is … and includes a joyful set of photos of her dogs, Elvor and Pearl. A must read.
I’d like to end with a quote I found when I was looking through old photos. It’s from St. Francis, and boy is it true. When I did this simple act of blending a drink, I paused at the end – after I took a big sip! – and received in the love I gave to myself. It was awesome, such lightness in my body.
What is an old belief that you can let go of today? Give yourself a moment with this for Forgiving Fridays.
I love you.
***This post is my contribution for The Daily Post’s Variations on a Theme and Frank’s Challenge, Old. Frank I used an old habit to create something so much more nurturing and fun. 🙂 Plus I found an old photo that I used to remind myself how forgiveness brings lightness into the shadows!***
Here’s the video with a step-by-step on the Vitamix drink – so fun!
Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:
- Every day is Friday! Do a post today or anytime this week.
- Be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Write a poem, take a photo, post a quote, share your story … what opens your heart?
- Include #ForgivingFridays in your tags
- Create a pingback link to this post so I can find you.
- Have fun – you are awesome!!
❤ ❤ ❤