Happy #ForgivingFridays everyone! Yay! This is an opportunity for you to share about forgiveness & post about it ANY DAY this week! See guidelines below. ❤ You can post whatever inspires YOU to forgive and choose love. Maybe it’s a photo or inspiring quote, or a poem, or you can share about b eing kind to yourself & others like I did.
Today’s Forgiving Fridays is speaking kindness to myself.
I grew up in a family with a lot of chaos. My mom was mentally ill, among other things. In this environment, I did not experience a lot of kindness for the growing up process – especially with making mistakes. Maybe I also took on the role of being the “good” girl so that mom would be ok.
Fast forward about 40 years. Here I am still trying to be the good girl to myself and others, and especially with people who mean a lot to me. It’s not working out very well, firstly because it’s not authentic, and second, because I’ve continued not being kind in my relationships.
So much so that I thought I lost a few relationships this week that are meaningful for me. What I realize is that I just want to be me. To simply forgive myself when I miss the mark. And to take a deep pause and receive my own loving.
I got myself flowers on the day when I felt the worst, the most alone and self-critical. I didn’t take in this act of kindness, and it’s time to do that now. (Pause for breath!!)
Pausing is something I missed until I wrote this blog! It is building my ability to receive love. Here are a few photos & a video I just did to help me 🙂
Just the simplest act of kindness is building my awareness of another way of being with myself, and others. A way of being that is loving, tolerant, accepting and honoring.
I don’t really have a lot more for today. I’m still working this – and you know what? I’m so ok with that! (I saw this really great quote from a book, “Momentum: Letting Love Lead” on letting go of struggle – so good for forgiveness! See below)
One more thing: No matter what I do, or how I act, I am inherently love. I don’t need to work on this, it just is.
I am SO SO grateful for all of you who contribute to Forgiving Fridays. I learn so much from you! Here are this week’s contributions:
Etta of Simply Etta D. shared her exploration of looking inside and learn what her heart is calling her to do – and to go for it! Great post, Etta.
DeBorah of Roaming Urban Gypsy shared two beautiful photo collages with her brother Stephen during the holidays – a Soulful strut and in Grand Central Station – that illustrate the power of love to uplift and heal.
Elsie of Ramblings of a Writer contributed a gorgeous post on celebrating our bodies exactly as they are. What profound tips to nurture, accept, and love ourselves. ❤ Elsie, thank you and welcome!
Lorelle of A Mindful Traveller returns with a great post on creative street art in Singapore. She writes: “Love the world we live in and appreciate what we are surrounded by.”
Frank of Poetry, Short Prose and Walking contributed a poem and exploration of sense with the help of Hafiz, Rumi and 8th C Japanese collection. It moved me to a place inside beyond the mind and senses. Beautiful.
Xenia of Whippet Wisdom wrote an exquisite tanka that combined a theme of acceptance with laughter and joy. She includes photos of her dogs running in winter worderland – a chuckle from nature.
Pragalbha of Infinite Living gave us a profound poem on how our love guides us perfectly on this grand adventure of life – and moves us into awareness of our own magnificence.
From last week 🙂 :
Miriam of Out an’ About gave us an amazing post full of gratitude, ordinary miracles, and kindness and patience with ourselves and others – and doing what we love. All great keys to forgive. A first time contributor!
And a post I found on a little girl’s call to help a family:
Patty of Books, Books and More Books! wrote an amazing story of a young girl’s inspiration to help families in Houston and the help she received. Sharing it here because I see kindness and touching to one another as a profound key to forgive.
I love you.
Have an amazing week!
Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:
- Every day is Friday! Do a post today or anytime this week.
- Be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Write a poem, take a photo, post a quote, share your story … what opens your heart?
- Include #ForgivingFridays in your tags
- Create a pingback link to this post so I can find you.
- Have fun – you are awesome!!
Here’s the quote from Momentum: Letting Love Lead
Have you ever found that the only good thing about suffering is when it stops?
When the suffering stops, you feel that you have learned something, so you think that the suffering was good for you. But you could have learned without the suffering.
How do you let go of those things in your consciousness that no longer serve you? The answer is to open up to greater love. Love will go in and stir the pain that you’ve locked away from even yourself. As it is stirred, it will begin to surface and release.
You have the ability to raise yourself. Don’t contract from your experiences. Bless them. Love them. They are your ladders into expansion and higher consciousness.
You do not have to force your awakening or push the speed of your unfoldment. You can, however, assist the process by loving yourself every step of the way, and by treating the people around you with kindness and honesty.
-John-Roger, D.S.S., with Paul Kaye, Momentum: Letting Love Lead