Happy #ForgivingFridays everyone! Post about forgiveness ANY DAY this week! A poem, short story, photo, video – anything that inspires you to forgive. (See guidelines below ❤ )
Today’s Forgiving Fridays is healing an old pattern, blame.
I got really upset in my relationship this week.
He didn’t do what I wanted him to do. I wanted him to take care of me.
God, relationship stuff brings up old memories, doesn’t it? I realized that growing up, I wanted my dad to take care of me differently. I didn’t know how to handle it then. Now I do.
I can forgive. I can give my loving to the part in me that wishes I was taken care of differently. I can look at what helps me to take care of me.
And I can express myself to my partner and really listen to what he needs too.
That last one – it’s new for me. To create a safe space where we are both heard.
So here I go:
I forgive myself for judging myself for expecting my partner to take care of me. I forgive myself for judging my dad as not taking care of me. I forgive myself for judging myself for holding on to this judgment for so long – until now.
I heard my spiritual teacher John Morton tell me if I am willing to forgive, grace will come in to take it. I am willing to forgive. Please, I ask for grace to take it and help me see the truth.
The truth is, my father did what he did. It is not good or bad, it is my judgment that makes it so. I love you, Dad. All is really OK.
I am taking the time to stop and really listen to what I need. I give myself all the love that I’m looking for. And I am open to the needs of my partner.
I am so much more at peace inside. Applying healing to the parts inside that hurt is such a key to forgive. And so is a willingness to show up and look at it.
Last week, four bloggers contributed to Forgiving Fridays – beautiful posts!!
Robin of Words for Life contributed a beautiful poem of forgiveness and how it sets us free.
Etta of Simple Etta D. shared the great value of service in helping us to forgive and let go.
Lacey of BigandPinkyToes gave us an amazing post of how to forgive as a mom.
Gabrielle of Bone&Silver opened up about her relationship with her mum – and forgiving them both.
For this week, I invite each of you to ask: Is there an old pattern that you’d like to let go of? What would you like to forgive? Or another topic is fine too! ❤ Remember, forgiveness starts within & you are so safe in love.
I love you.
Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:
- Every day is Friday! Do a post today or anytime this week.
- Free free to be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Whatever inspire forgiving inside you.
- Tag your post with #ForgivingFridays (here’s a great WordPress article about tagging posts)
- Create a pingback link to this post. This way, I can create a post showing all of the submissions over the week.
- Have fun creating your own form of forgiving, of loving YOU!!
This post is my contribution to two wonderful Photo Challenges: (1) Dutch Goes the Photo, “Old”: Frank, I had the courage to heal an old habit; & (2) The Daily Post, “Friend”: Krista, I am truly learning that I am my own friend.