Happy New Year & Happy #ForgivingFridays everyone! Yay! This is an opportunity for you to share about forgiveness & post about it ANY DAY this week! See guidelines below. ❤ You can post whatever inspires YOU to forgive and choose love. Maybe it’s a poem, or a photo or inspiring quote, or you can share your story of forgiveness like I did.
Today’s Forgiving Fridays is my story … and the peace of Self-forgiveness.
I spent many years of my life in harsh self-judgment and criticism, including struggling with food addiction. In my late 20s, I connected with a spiritual teacher and committed to love myself. As I lifted up in awareness, I became aware of blocks I put in the way. I’ve worked my process to look at those parts of myself I’ve judged and make peace with them.
I also experienced the murder of my mom in my 30s, at a time when I was already practicing forgiveness. My mom would have been the first one to forgive the person who killed her. I’m taking it a step further to forgive myself for judging that the situation is anything less than perfect.
See, one of the biggest keys for me is Self-forgiveness. Self-forgiveness starts inside and is so simple: it’s me forgiving myself for judging myself or others as right or wrong. That is a profound shift from the usual way of doing forgiveness. This means that it’s not really about me forgiving someone else, or even myself as a person. It’s about me forgiving myself for the judgment I placed.
I use a simple phrase to do this: “I forgive myself for judging….” (For example, I forgive myself for judging my body as ugly. Or, I forgive myself for judging my mom’s murder as wrong.)
Then I pause to let it go.
And say at least one thing I’m grateful for.
Simple? Yes. Easy? Well, it takes practice. 🙂
One of my favorite things about Self-forgiveness is that the very things I judge are keys to making peace with myself.
Each time I judge, I have the opportunity to look at it, accept it, and forgive myself for judging – to heal one more issue and see myself in my exquisite beauty. Everything that comes into my life is a blessing to help me do this. Everything.
Another of my favs is that I don’t need to know how to forgive. Or let go. I just need to be willing to forgive, and my heart will do the rest. And angels like my mom help me on my way.
I write this blog because through Self-forgiveness, I am having more and more experiences of loving myself, and I want to continue to heal and grow and to serve others along the way. I offer this blog as a space for you to explore and experience forgiveness too.
In the coming weeks, I’m planning to choose an area of my life where I’d like to bring in forgiveness and growth, and share my experience with you. For today, here are some photos of me with my first-ever smoothie from my new Vitamix! This small act is a culmination of many years of Self-forgiveness, and drinking it really touched me – I am learning from the old & receiving my loving in a new way. ❤
I am SO SO grateful for all of you who contribute to Forgiving Fridays. I learn so much from you! Here are this week’s contributions:
Etta of Simply Etta D. gave us a wonderful post with an invitation to approach the new year with altitude, courage, and willingness to stand tall in who we are. Bless you, Etta! ❤
DeBorah of Roaming Urban Gypsy shared two photo collages – one to illustrate the joy of being with her brother Stephen and a second to highlight how he is a ray of sunshine in her life. Great reminder of how love blesses us!!
Frank of Poetry, Short Prose and Walking contributed an illuminating poem and photo to illustrate the power of grace and forgiveness in our lives …. and how we can enjoy the ride!
Donna of Wind Kisses shared her wish that we each soar and live fully –including a gorgeous song to open up and share who we truly are. A first-time contributor!
Revived Writer wrote a beautiful poem on forgiving herself for the past and trusting she’s exactly where she needs to be – and renewing with the blessings of the New Year!
Nikki of A Kinder Way contributed a heartwarming blog post on how important it is to treat ourselves with kindness, say “no” when we need to, and be our own best friend. Thank you Nikki!
Xenia of Whippet Wisdom shared an exquisite tanka on the mystery in the beauty of what’s around us. So full of thanks for the New Year, as are her two adorable dogs, Elvor and Pearl 🙂 .
Miriam of The Shower of Blessings wrote a beautiful blog with her prayers for herself and her family for 2018 – what a demonstration of her open heart!
Stella of Giggles & Tales contributed a gorgeous prayer of peace and love for our planet – and she is such a peace bearer of joy. Welcome back, Stella!
And in case you missed it from my last blog: ❤
Ali of Flashlight Batteries gave us a profound poem on looking through the eyes of love in the midst of uncertainty, and how forgiveness helps us to see into the miraculous!
I have a deep prayer for all of us to come together to share our wins, our challenges, and our learning with forgiveness. To choose love instead of fear. To experience the peace that is ALWAYS present, no matter what the conditions. To speak kindness to ourselves and others – and to see the Soul (the presence of love) in each of us regardless of the outer differences.
I’d like to end with a quote from one of my spiritual mentors, John Morton:
“We are all gathered here as a process of peace. This is a life long process. It is the presence and the vibration of peace. Being aware of this is a blessing of peace.” ~John Morton, DSS
I love you.
***This post is my contribution for The Daily Post’s Growth and Frank’s Challenge, Recycle. Frank I am using all of my experiences, looking at old beliefs, and recycling them through forgiveness as needed!***
Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:
- Every day is Friday! Do a post today or anytime this week.
- Be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Write a poem, take a photo, post a quote, share your story … what opens your heart?
- Include #ForgivingFridays in your tags
- Create a pingback link to this post so I can find you.
- Have fun – you are awesome!!