Happy #ForgivingFridays everyone! Join with fellow bloggers & post about forgiveness ANY DAY this week! It can be about loving, forgiveness, trust, acceptance, or anything that opens you to forgive. (See guidelines below ❤ ) This post is also my contribution this week for Niki’s Kindness Challenge, Choosing Kindness
Today’s Forgiving Fridays is trusting myself to love.
I got really upset again in my relationship last night.
He said he would do one thing and then did something else. I got upset.
A part of why I got upset is because he asked me to handle something I thought he would do. My time is pretty booked today. So what do I do?
I decided to follow my own advice in my recent video 🙂 , and breathe and listen within. When I did this, I got how unnerving it is for me when someone doesn’t keep their word. The truth is, am I keeping MY word. (Relationship is a mirror).
The truth is, I say I’m going to do something and reneg on myself a lot. Especially to please someone else. The reason? Well I just have an old belief that I am not worth respecting my own needs. Until now.
I forgive this old belief. I placed a judgment out there that my partner should do what I can not do for myself. I forgive myself for judging myself for doing this. And most of all, I forgive myself for judging myself as unworthy of respecting my own needs.
And I can express myself to my partner and really listen to what he needs too.
I let go, and relax, and I am EMBRACING patience with myself as I build new habits. I love myself so much. The truth is: I am worthy of respecting my own needs. It starts there.
The truth is, my partner did the best that he could. He’s a lovely man.
I am taking the time inside to say that time is not the end all – love is. All is really OK.
No matter what I choose to do, the key for me is to choose love. I commit to that.
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Last week, five bloggers contributed to Forgiving Fridays – beautiful posts!!
Jhae of Adashofjhaee contributed wonderful tips and encouragements for accepting, loving, and forgiving ourselves.
Etta of Simple Etta D. shared the great value of service in helping us to forgive and let go.
Nikki of Flying Through Water gave us an amazing lineup of posts of the week on how to open ourselves to loving ourselves, our friends, and even our pets. 🙂
Myonelife.today contributed an exquisite reflection of how to tend to our inner and outer gardens so that we can recover and thrive.
The Random Blog of Irreverent Thoughts – a new contributor! – opened up about his experience with forgiveness.
I am so grateful to participate in Forgiving Fridays with you. I invite you to join me in giving yourself the gift of forgiveness. YOU are so worth it.
Remember, forgiveness starts within & you are so safe in love.
I love you.
Love, Debbie
Here are the guidelines of #ForgivingFridays:
- Every day is Friday! Do a post today or anytime this week.
- Free free to be creative – there’s LOTS of space for your expression! Whatever inspire forgiving inside you.
- Tag your post with #ForgivingFridays (here’s a great WordPress article about tagging posts)
- Create a pingback link to this post. This way, I can create a post showing all of the submissions over the week.
- Have fun creating your own form of forgiving, of loving YOU!!
ps – here’s the video I did to help me breath and listen inside – it’s a meditation on forgiveness! Following that is a poem for you on time and choosing love. ❤
Time is Not All The Way Home – A Poem of Forgiveness
-Do you want?
She whispered, through
the pain of her
own words.
-Do you see?
She screamed, as the
clock struck twelve.
-Do you care?
She cried, as her
heart spoke to her.
It spoke, and the many
questions, they
stopped, because
the Father Time
let go of
its true grip, it
stopped + she saw,
for the one
true moment,
the question
of her heart.
It said,
“Why Beloved?
Why?” She answered
For Love (+ For Now)
-D Roth
Just popping by to say have a great weekend! You always make me smile!
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Oh Patricia, you too! And thank you for retweeting my blog posts on twitter. 🙂 I am so glad you’re here. Have a wonderful weekend. Smiles! Blessings, Debbie
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This is so inspiring for me to take a look at myself and what I can do to change situations vs getting upset!
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Oh yay! I’m so glad. Feel free to let me know how it goes for you. 🙂 You’re welcome to email me anytime at weloveyou@forgivingconnects.com. So glad you’re here. Blessings, Debbie
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“Relationship is a mirror”- absolutely true. What we give, will get back. Thanks again for a thought-provoking post, Debbie. Loved your poem too…<3 Have a wonderful weekend 🙂 Let noting upset your kindling spirit…
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Maniparna, thank you. So true! What we give, we get back. Relationship is such an amazing opportunity to love ourselves more, and to honor the humanness in all of us. A courageous, blessed thing. 😊 Have a wonderful week, Maniparna! Feel free to contribute to Forgiving Fridays any day you’d like to. Love Debbie
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What a sweet mirror you have chosen.And I love how Forgiving Fridays is catching on and building. So many gifts of grace. Loving you, Debbie.
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You said it Anne. On all counts. I’m humbled by my openness to learn and grow here – it’s a new one – this level of vulnerability and choosing to forgive and love.
Yay on Forgiving Fridays 💜 It IS growing! Thank you for being such a blessed partt in it, Anne. You bring such wisdom and joy. Love and Light to you! Debbie
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I am so happy to read your updates Debbie. Wishing you a lovely week full of self care. 😊
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Brigid thank you! And a blessed week of Self Care to you too. Hope you are doing well 💜 Just getting your comment brightens my morning! Love Debbie
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What a great piece to take you through the weekend. I absolutely love the poem on forgiveness!
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Oh EttaD, thank you! The poem just came out one day when I was on a hike in Zion National Park. Was on a trip with my partner – so much coming out to learn and love. 💜 Have a wonderful rest of your Sunday and week ahead! Love, Debbie
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Debbie, this is a wonderful post. I admire how you can self reflect on circumstances and forgive yourself and your partner. Thank you so much for your honesty and life lessons! Many blessings to you!💗😎
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Oh Mary, thanks! I really appreciate your encouragement. Glad it was of value for you. 🙂
Forgiving is so important in relationship. I was just talking with my partner today about how it’s key to take responsibility inside of myself for the judgments / upset that come forward.
Blessings to you too Mary! ❤ 🙂
Debbie
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Thank you for sharing this beautiful meditation Debbie and we wish you a blessed and peaceful new week ☺💖 xxx
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Oh Xenia, thank you! I’m so glad that the forgiveness meditation was of value for you. ❤ That makes me happy. 🙂 Have a blessed and peaceful new week to you and your beautiful dogs. Debbie
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Thank you Debbie, have a wonderful week! :o) xxx
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Hi Debbie,
I’m glad I read this post and the lessons and values it teaches on love, on forgiveness and life too. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I’d like to contribute too and help build a saner society with love as the mantra. Blessings to you. 🙂
Hugs,
Stella
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Hi Stella, I would love for you to contribute to Forgiving Fridays. That would be an honor. All you need to do is include a pingback to this post & also include #ForgivingFridays in your tags.
If helpful, here is the link for your pingback: https://forgivingconnects.com/2017/06/09/todays-forgiving-fridays-trusting-myself-to-love/
Anything that inspires you to forgive is wonderful. 🙂
Let me know if you have questions (and you’re also welcome to email me at weloveyou@forgivingconnects.com).
Hugs to you Stella. Blessings, Debbie
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Thank you. Will call your attention if I run into difficulties with it. Should be here with my first post on Friday. Cheers. 🙂
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