Today’s forgiving blog is about not having to be perfect.
I experienced some pretty painful emotions this week. Probably the biggest thing is that I co-presented a class and felt like I “wasn’t on” or didn’t do the greatest job. Even as I am writing this, a part of me wants to disappear, because I…. Well, let’s slow that down.
A part of me wants to disappear because in the past, I’ve turned away from myself when I make a mistake. I abandon myself. This stops now.
It stops even to the point that I LOVE the part of me that abandons myself. It’s that deep of a change. I’m not trying to get rid of any of it – rather, my intention is to love all of it and to tune into the wisdom of my heart for what to do.
This starts with self-forgiveness:
1 – Self-forgiveness: I forgive myself for judging myself as needing to be perfect to be loved. I forgive myself for judging myself for not loving myself when I do something less than what I think I can do. I forgive myself for judging my mom for not being the role model that I wanted her to be.
2 – Letting Go: I let all this go into the Light with a BIG SMILE so that I may be set free. THANK YOU DEBBIE!
3 – Gratitude: I am grateful for the opportunity to love myself. I am grateful for letting go of an old pattern – I thought it was perfectionism and maybe it’s really separating myself from loving it all.
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The wisdom of my heart never steers me wrong. I noticed a forgiveness about my mom – it just popped out. There’s a quote from J-R (my spiritual teacher) which says something like “You can talk to your mom and she’ll get it, and there’s lots of healing”. Mom, I accept and love you as you are/were.
Maybe I can improve as a facilitator. Well, I’m sure of that. And the biggest way for me to improve today is to awaken to my own loving presence. I choose “YES!”
I love you. Wow, that is beautiful – like a gorgeous star in the sky.
Love, Debbie
ps – this is my contribution for Dutch Goes the Photo’s Weekly Challenge, Abandoned. Frank, can you see the lone star in the sky? I realized it’s not abandoned – it’s just love.
Beautiful, Debbie!
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Thank you, Anne. It really came from my heart.
I love you. Blessings your way, my Beloved friend – Debbie (and big smiles ❤ )
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A truly wonderful post, Debbie! We all need to practice more self-kindness and self-forgiveness. 🙂
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Oh Brenda, thank you. So lovely to have your presence. Many blessings ~Debbie 🙂 ps – big smiles to you
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You’re so very welcome, Debbie.😊Peace and blessings.💜
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Of course you will improve as a facilitator – just keep getting up there and letting the experience happen, no matter what it brings. We can’t get better if we don’t let ourselves fall down. 🙂
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God, Emily, it’s so true. Thanks for the cheerleading, it really makes a difference for me. You are awesome, much loving to you — Debbie 🙂
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Thank you for putting into words something that I do. By reading this, it has come into my conscious understanding. Wow! So many times I wanted to crawl under my desk at work and hide – because I did not feel perfect in that moment. If there is a next time, I will stop and forgive myself in that moment. ❤
Thank you, Debbie! ❤
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Oh yay! That is so good to know. 🙂 Feel free to keep me posted how it goes for you. My email is weloveyou@forgivingconnects.com
So happy that you’re here, your presence is lovely. Many blessings -Debbie
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Great post Debbie! We should all share more kindness and self forgiveness.
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Thank you! So good to reconnect with you. Loved visiting your blog earlier… Big smiles 🙂
Blessings – Debbie
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A beautiful post, Debbie! Forgiving and letting go are key elements of abandoning what weighs us down!
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You said it, Frank. Very well put!! 🙂
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Thank you for sharing this. Sometimes I realized that the audience didn’t know what the right way or wrong way, good or bad way in a presentation. It’s the expectation to ourselves. If I didn’t do a good job, the audience may not even know it. It’s good that you didn’t expect yourself to be perfect, so you didn’t stress yourself. I’m happy for you!
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Thank you, Miriam! That’s so true … very important to be aware of what’s going on inside so we’re being good to ourselves and open to learning, kindness and love. So glad for your comment. You are a gift.
Blessings,
Debbie
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Thank you for being open and share. That alone takes the fear out of us who have it!
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This is beautiful Debbie and so full of love and self compassion, which is so important. None of us are perfect, if we were we wouldn’t be human. Lots of love to you my friend. xo
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God, thank you, Miriam. There is so much compassion in what you are sharing. (Like a big virtual hug ❤ )
Lots of love to you too my friend. So glad you are here. Many blessings, Debbie xo
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A big virtual hug ❤️ I absolutely love that thought Debbie. The world could use more of that right now. Blessings right back xo
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Well done, sounds like something I need to work towards with my mom.
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I hear you, Taureenia! You can do it ❤ Sending you much love in your forgiving process. May kindness be with you each step of the way. Blessings, Debbie
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Thank you 😊
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Hugs Debbie. I am sure you are your own worst critic, as are we all. And with more experience you will get better. Hugs friend!
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Thanks so much, Lacey! Your cheerleading is so uplifting to me. Big smiles to you, my friend. And much love, Debbie 🙂
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Oh I’ve been there Debbie – giving a presentation which just ‘goes to pot’ … ‘panic attack’s ‘self loathing’… Hypnotherapy was my saviour and since that time, it’s ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’ because it’s the only way to improve. AND A LOT of Pre training preparation.. Standing infront of the mirror saying the words out loud and visualisation – imagine yourself standing there presenting the words and seeing the enthusiastic faces of your clients… For me that preparation is absolutely critical and without it.. I panic! Well done for forgiving yourself and getting ‘back on the bike’ when you’ve fallen off… If it’s any consolation, you’re probably criticising yourself far more than those trainees did… often they don’t even notice the mistakes.. Angel Blessings my friend and yes – “Cheers to Imperfections!” – hey how would we make others look good if we were perfect ourselves! x
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Great wisdom, Wendy! I love your Cheers – it’s so happy, I think I’m going to use that in my own forgiveness. Cheers to forgiveness !!!
Big smiles to you Wendy, and so much love and Light and courage in all the ways we share ourselves. You have a lot of creativity, and it’s inspiring. Love, Debbie
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I hear the chink of the champagne glasses Debbie! Wishing you much love and continued inspiration! xx
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This process that you share with us so beautifully and lovingly …is the hardest kind of work to go through …thank you for sharing …it stirs a lot to be loved and accepted in me, there is always more love we can give ourselves.
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I am so glad that you’re here. Forgiving is one of my keys to acceptance, especially self-acceptance!!! It’s a way that I love myself. Sending you many blessings of love in your own process of forgiving. ❤ Debbie
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You make me feel happy being here 🙂 Thank you for sharing your keys that fits all our locks that we have created for ourselves.
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Debbie, wow… this is SOOOO relatable. I actually needed to hear this right now. We are always are own worse critics, aren’t we? And the way you described abandoning a part of yourself- I totally relate to that 100%. It’s like we don’t want to think about it or acknowledge it, but when we can embrace all aspects of who we are in love, that is so powerful! Thank you for sharing this. ❤
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Yay, Mack, that is so great! Isn’t it powerful to just accept what is going on inside of us? It’s a relief for me. 🙂 So glad that you are here – I appreciate your wisdom, your elegance, and your deep caring. Blessings to you and to DJ ~Debbie ps – one step at a time (that works for me 🙂 )
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Your words bring peace to me, Debbie. It also made me rethink about my relationship with my mom. I sometimes become hyper with her for petty reasons. I’ll try to calm down and try to understand her point of view. Thanks so much for the post… 🙂
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You got it. Your awareness with your mom sounds fantastic. One of my followers recently have a tip that helps her, of counting to 10 (or higher!). Sending many blessings to you and your mom, Debbie
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Thanks a lot, Debbie… 🙂
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Perhaps your presentation was better than you thought Debbie!! Other people just see what you say– not the things you missed. But we all understand– who doesn’t have down days. The older I get, the more I see my imperfections–and my need to rely on God all the more… take care friend. You give out to a lot of people. xo
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Rhonda, thank you. This touched my heart, and I really get the wisdom in what you are sharing. Boy, I’m certainly walking the path of forgiveness. Glad you are here, my friend. Blessings 💖
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It’s all too easy to judge ourselves when we “perform”. I used to teach a bit and my tutor told me that instead of beating myself up for the bits that went wrong or that I could have done better, I should celebrate the bits that did go well. We need to celebrate ourselves so much more, and I’d definitely say you have lots to celebrate about yourself Debbie – you are amazing 🙂 .
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Oh Judith thank you! That went right into my heart. 🙂 Many blessings to you. I celebrate me, and I celebrate you! Loving you, Debbie
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Good for you! Self love is no easy thing to accomplish but you sound like you’re on te right track!
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Thank you so much. It’s lovely to have you here. 😊 Each day is a new loving adventure! Blessings, Debbie
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This is beyond beautiful!
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Marie, you are a sweetheart! So glad that it was valuable for you. 🙂 🙂 Have a wonderful Sunday, and many blessings your way. ~Debbie
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This is so calming and uplifting all at the same time. I know that I judge myself harshly and strive to be the perfect everything – am I doing the best I can as a mum, sibling, friend, employee, colleague and volunteer? I used to drive myself to the point of physical and mental exhaustion as I never thought I was good enough! This has gone on for decades and it’s only been the past month where I’ve realised I need to be kinder to myself which has really helped me take shed some of the pressure I’ve been piling on myself. It’s liberating 🙂
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Hi Leticia! So good to connect with you. I’m glad that this post was helpful, and how cool that you’re being kinder to yourself. That really touches my heart. ❤ So glad you're here, and be in touch anytime. Many blessings to you, Debbie ps – I'd love to know what helped you be kinder to yourself!
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Hi Debbie, there were quite a few things occurring over the last few months. An ex-colleague passed away. We’d kept saying for over a year via text and instant message that we must get together for a good old catch up. We never managed to set it up. Then I found out a couple of months ago that she’d got ill again & passed away. I realised that not only had I pushed my body to the point of physical & mental exhaustion through working long hours but I’d left myself no time at all to do what I love – spending time with friends, volunteering and just “being”. I feel great now that I’ve reassessed my life priorities & learnt to say no to things that I really don’t want to do 🙂
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Wow, Letisha. This is so powerful. So much Light and love to your ex-colleague ❤ and to you. I really acknowledge and admire you for reassessing your life priorities — using this for your learning and growth. Gosh, what a blessing for you and those you care for. ❤ I'm so glad you're here and that we've connected. Blessings to you! ~Debbie
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PS….I can’t wait to read through more of your posts 🙂
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You’re a sweetheart, Letisha! Thank you ❤
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