Today’s forgiving journal is about opening my heart to family.
I’m currently staying at a place that’s like community living. It’s really gorgeous, and it’s also bringing up a lot of old judgments around family. Specifically about not feeling worthy to be loved and to be a part of the family.
I remember being a kid and feeling pretty ugly, and stupid, and a little off to the side, like there was something wrong with me. And tonight, we had a tree trimming party, and I had some of the same memories coming up – like I am still that kid who doesn’t quite fit in, and it’s laughable that I try.
The thing is, when I was a kid, maybe I didn’t know better that I was worthy of love. I do now.
Time for forgiving:
1 – I forgive myself for judging myself as unworthy of love. I forgive myself for judging myself for needing to get the Christmas balls exactly right so that I can stay at the party. I forgive myself for feeling separate and lonely for the love that everyone else seems to have.
2 – I let go of all these judgments, and all the memories of past hurts and griefs and losses, into the Light, and I give myself a humongo hug and say, “I love you Debbie!!”
3 – I am grateful for being so aware of my process of judging and what goes on inside of me about that. I am grateful for having a family at my new home! I am grateful for standing up inside and saying I am worthy of love.
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When I was a little girl, I used food as a way to hide from myself and opening my heart to family. I could have done that tonight, and I didn’t. Instead, I chose to give my little kid love best I could and to take my place in our family by simply connecting with love and a smile.
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I don’t know exactly how to end this one so I’ll just say, I love you.
Love,
Debbie
Judgment can bring so much of separation …I love the gratitude for being aware of the judgment 🙂
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Yes!! I agree ❤ Love what you said "I love the gratitude for being aware of the judgment." Thank you, and many blessings, Debbie
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You are welcome! Thank you too 🙂
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Healing grace and joy to you! With loving Light and so many blessings.
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Oh, Anne, right back to you my friend. God bless you… thank you so much for the blessings and the loving. ❤ Love, Debbie
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We’re so hard on ourselves aren’t we Debbie. But I’m glad to hear you’re being kinder to yourself. It’s so important. I send you a big warm hug and lots of loving wishes. Take care xo
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Oh, Miriam, I love your hugs – I feel them all the way across the Ocean. Sending hugs and blessings right back to you, and so much compassion and care. Love, Debbie
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Thank you so much Debbie, glad you felt that hug. Here’s another BIG one just for you with warm wishes for an amazing weekend. xo 😊
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WOW! This is deep. It’s amazing all the things we remember as a kid and how it shapes us as we get older. I pray you continue to forgive and love. Because your “light” is amazing.
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Thank you so much! Your comments really touched my heart, very insightful. Your Light is amazing too. ❤ We all have it inside of us. Many, many blessings — Debbie
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Anytime Debbie 🙂 I’m glad I could be here for you!!!
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Holidays can bring up painful memories for us. Thanks for modeling a way to work through the pain and be present to the moment in front of you. Your blog is full of healing possibility. Thank you.
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You are so welcome. It was so important for me to do forgiveness, letting go, and gratitude after that event. I felt like I touched myself inside with loving. Many, many blessings – thanks so much! ❤
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I feel like the odd man out with certain groups of people. I stay away from those people mostly and spend time with others who love and accept me. Yes, forgive yourself and love who you are. Sending blessings to you, love Mary
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Oh, Mary – thank you. I am touched. So key, to forgive, to love, and to accept. You are such a blessing, glad you’re here. ❤ Love, Debbie
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You are too, Debbie. Be kind to yourself!💗💗💗
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Great, keep posting blogs like these.
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This is heart touching. You are worthy of all the love that comes your way and much more. Hope you have wonderful holidays ❤️
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Oh Zee, thank you! You too. So glad that you are here. ❤ Many blessings, Debbie
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Happy Sunday ❤
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And to you too, Simona! ❤ Many blessings
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Debbie, I like how you showed, in a simple way, how easily we sometimes slip into a judgment about ourselves. It’s so important to reflect and recognize these types of behaviors. Light and love to you in your new experiences.
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K E, thank you so much. To me, it’s so much about awareness, acceptance, compassion and a willingness to forgive. Your comments are so wise, and I really appreciate you. Blessings and love, Debbie xo
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I love your slideshow! And your smile! So full of love, sparkle, and light. Shine on! 💛💫
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Aww, Andrea, thank you! That really means a lot to me. Will do. ❤ Many blessings to you, and love, Debbie
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More steps on your journey– thank you for being so open to share it all with us, Debbie. Love the picture of you by the tree! Christmas hugs from here!
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Thank you, Rhonda! And to you too. I love your posts and your comments, they are so cheerleading and full of loving. Many blessings ❤ Your hugs warmed my heart.
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Glad you’re back at your blog! I’ll be reading… Merry Christmas dear friend!
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And to you too, Rhonda! Merry Christmas 🙂 Hugs
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Oh Debbie that makes me want to give you a big, giant huge. I have a hard time with those past feelings creeping up sometimes too. Thank you for sharing.
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Oh Lacey, thank you for sharing! It is so good to have you here. Sending many blessings and so much love your way. 🙂 Debbie
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