Today’s forgiving journal is being ok with grief.
I’m aware that sometimes I want to move too fast out of a feeling of loss.
It’s ok to relax, let it come out, and keep my focus on loving.
There are a number of losses I’m grieving, and that is ok. The key is to know in my heart that I am whole, held, and blessed through it all.
A fellow blogger Robin Baldwin shared her own story of forgiving in relationship. It’s a gorgeous poem.
After she wrote it, Robin emailed me and said, “The process of writing it made me realize that I need to work on forgiving my loved one for not fighting harder to overcome a myriad of illnesses that affected our relationship. I still have a way to go, but I’ve now taken the first step that I didn’t even know I had to take. So thank you!”
Robin, thank you so much for your courage. See Robin’s poem below.
I am on my way to the funeral of a dear friend’s mother. Just being there for one another (and for ourselves) can be the best forgiveness there is.
I love you.
Love,
Debbie
It’s not the Alzheimer’s
The depression,
Or the headaches
That I can’t forgive.
It’s the essence of you
That disappeared throughout
These last thirtysomething years
That weighs on me,
Making it difficult for me to
Understand how you left.
All this time I’ve blamed
The illnesses, the meds, the doctors.
For not making you well,
Preventing me from talking
To you like we used to.
Never knowing how you would
Be feeling, it wasn’t safe to
Have honest conversations.
I became guarded, distant even,
To protect myself.
I have mourned you
While standing in front of me.
Why couldn’t you fight harder to stay?
Time is fleeting now
But forgiveness is elusive
Knowing that your mind
Can’t grasp what’s in
My heart.
Thank you, Debbie, for sharing my story and poem. I hope it might be comforting for others who are going through similar situations. I’m sorry for your the loss of your friend’s mother.
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Thank you. ❤
And thank you again for sharing your story. I am so touched in my heart, Robin. You gave me a blessing.
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very powerful pieces ….. thanks for sharing
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Thank you! ❤ Robin did a magnificent job sharing her forgiveness story, and inspired my own. Blessings!
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And you gave me a blessing! God works in mysterious ways and I am so grateful that our paths have crossed!
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Robin, there is so much depth to this poem- each line brings with it so much truth and emotion. It reminds us all the power and catharsis in writing. Thank you, Debbie for sharing it! You have a incredible way of connecting people on a beautifully human level! Thankful for you both.
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Oh Mack you are so welcome! Thank you for being here. Your presence is such a joy. And I agree, Robin did a fantastic job on the poem … so touching.
Blessings your way ❤
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Mack, thank you for your kind words. The poem took me by surprise but it was an important step of self-discovery.
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What a beautiful poem and slideshow. Thank you! This post triggered the awareness in me that in place of accepting the grief, I had put myself under pressures. I am free to live more fully from my heart and connection with what is true for me.
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Actually it was more accepting the loss than the grief.
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God Anne, I so hear you. And YES, accepting the loss is significant – what a good distinction. ❤ Love your sharing and I'm sending many blessings your way for living in your heart and what is true for you. I love you!
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Thank you, Anne, for enjoying my poem!
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So inspiring to read this! Thank you for sharing! Your posts are always full of positive energy Debbie, it’s always a pleasure reading them! Have a lovely day 🙂
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Thank you, Lisa ❤ You are such a sweetheart. Your comments bring such sweet energy & smiles to my day. So glad you're here. Many blessings.
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What a beautiful moving poem and post.
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Thank you, Chez Shea. Robin did a magnificent job on her poem … so opened my heart & inspired this post. Blessings your way, glad to have you here. ❤
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Thank you, Chef Shea!
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Thank you for sharing this poem. I imagine it’s quite common to become angry at the person you lose for losing the battle. Poetry and writing heals, so I hope it helps you and your friend.❤️
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You got it! Light and love to Robin and all involved. Thanks for your comments, and blessings your way. ❤
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Many blessings to you.❤️
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Thank you for reading my poem!
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Debbie., thanks for sharing these. Sorry I have a bit absent from reading your blog. Slowly , very slowly getting us to my part time job, quite tough after not working two years…
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That is completely ok! It’s so lovely to have you here exactly as you are. And wow, congrats on the part time job, sending blessings to that and to YOU! You are a joy. 🙂
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Grief is a hard one for me.
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Another tender insightful post Debbie. My father passed 26 years ago and I still miss him so. thank you. xox
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I so appreciate that, Rhonda. ❤ Much Light and blessings to you and the Soul of your father. He must have been one lovely man.
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Debbie..grief is so personal. I think if we just kept that in mind we would all be a lot gentler with ourselves.
Robin…you’re poem reaches right down and grabs the reader. So raw and honest.
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Nikki, that is so true. When I read that comment, I felt so held by compassion. Thank you for your wisdom, for your loving heart, and for your caring. You make such a difference in this blogging community (and in my life personally). Blessings of loving your way and to Steve too. ❤
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Thank you, Nikki. I appreciate you reading it.
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Do you accept ping backs ?
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Yes absolutely, thank you! Many blessings 💜💜
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Thank you!
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A very insightful post, much needed ☺
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Thank you so much! And thank you for following my blog, it put a smile on my face, and you are so welcome. Many blessings 💜
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