Today’s forgiving journal is about redefining old ways.
I participate in a photo challenge by a wonderful fellow blogger Dutch Goes the Photo. This week’s focus is fences.
I immediately thought, “I am so tired of being on the fence.” I’ve spent so much of my life believing that I am going to make a wrong choice. If I dig a little deeper, I also am afraid to make a choice because that means that I need to fully LIVE in it.
Sitting here right now, I don’t even know why that is so scary. I’m aware that when I look deeper at a false belief, I get to the illusion that’s running me. Well, I am ready to let this go – with love.
1 – Self-forgiveness: I forgive myself for judging myself for staying stuck in old ways of doing things, of seeing me. I forgive myself for judging all the times I’ve sat on the fence. I forgive myself for judging how very alone that has felt for me.
2 – Letting go: I look into my heart now and ask for help to let this old belief structure go. I throw away what I thought was the key to being safe and I open to love and new beginnings.
3 – Gratitude: My biggest blessing is to choose love. It is my key to living an abundant life, which to me is full of grace, joy, connection, and a whole lot of living. I am grateful for the beauty of our planet and for the option to choose love in every moment.
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Let’s redefine that belief around fences. I now see fences as a beautiful enclosure to a sanctuary inside of me, with stages of learning on top of it and a table for two. Life is good and I’m open to share it, to live it, and most of all – to love it all, starting with me.
I love you.
Love,
Debbie
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Debbie, this is a wonderful post that shows us that you’re not getting fenced in!
Frank
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Thank you Frank! It was beautiful to write (and a really gorgeous garden 🙂 ). Blessings!
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Lovely words and thoughts. Thanks for sharing 🌸 🌺 🌸
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Thank you! It was truly expansive for me. Blessings to you ❤
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Wonderful way you describe it “see fences as a beautiful enclosure to a sanctuary inside of me” 🙂
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Thank you. Such a good reframe for me (and a good reminder right now 🙂 ). Blessings your way!
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Redefining old ways is definitely up. In the now, I experience the new. Each now is a new for me. when I remember it!
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Ooh Anne I love this “each now is a new for me”. I love you. Thanks for that & for your comments!!
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That was such a great post ! Your word give me chills as I read them,I discover myself! Lot’s of love. ❤️
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Oh Meg, I love this! Completely touched my heart. So happy for you. 🙂
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I am at the same crossroad, have been for awhile. the wanting to change but fear of change so you get stuck. I really like how taking pictures of fences motivated you to think about yourself. The self-forgiveness is so needed too, you want to change something, plan to, don’t get around to it and than beat yourself up over it. I am going to try those three things you wrote about and begin to step forward. Thank you 🙂
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Yay!!! Good for you. ❤ Be gentle with yourself. Blessings – so glad to have you here.
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Love your knew definition of fence!
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Thank you! I’m so proud of myself ❤ Blessings
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Lovely photo Debbie and I love your words and definition of what a fence signifies to you … just beautiful. Wishing you a safe and peaceful enclosure always, one where you’re free to come and go as you please. Hugs xo
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Wow. Miriam, thank you. I really took this in. So many blessings your way!! ❤ 🙂
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And to you too! xo
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Great blog as always Debbie. What a wonderful place to sit and relax with a drink and a friend.
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Thank you Steve! Yes the place is beautiful – it’s called the “Peace Awareness Labyrinth and Gardens” in LA. Blessings to you, friend!
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