Today’s forgiving journal: Releasing barriers to love

Today’s forgiving blog is about releasing barriers to love.

This morning, I woke up after having had a very intense dream.  I was somewhat shaken and felt alone.  I don’t think I realized how vulnerable I felt until a good friend emailed me this Rumi quote:

Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.
Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~Rumi

I started crying.  My heart was so open, and I was touched by the truth and Rumi open-your-hands.jpgthe caring of this quote.

The rest of the day felt like a struggle …. I chewed a lot of gum, felt impatient and boxed in, put off eating, drank too much coffee, you name it.  The amazing thing was, as I was doing these things, I had a level of awareness that (a) I was doing them, and (b) I was doing my very best to love myself through it.

I am getting much stronger at loving and caring for myself, and making conscious choices that serve to increase that loving and caring.

I had a Skype call with a dear colleague and friend on a forgiving center we’re looking at creating.  During the conversation, we talked about what was going on for me, and she mentioned that vulnerability can be state that hurts, and it can also be a blessing.

I forgive myself for judging myself for this vulnerability I’m allowing myself to be in.  God, that sounds so circuitous, and you know what?  Sometimes forgiving comes out just the way it comes out.

Rumi LoversWhat I am aware of right now is that I’d add one more line at the end of the Rumi quote.  After “to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”,  I would say – and did say to myself today – “and love them all.

That’s a nice forgiving tool – becoming aware, forgiving, and loving it all!

Please do feel free to share your stories of forgiving…. Or struggles where you don’t know how to forgive….

I am just loving you all. Thank you for being here.



12 thoughts on “Today’s forgiving journal: Releasing barriers to love

  1. Forgiving is tough but always doable. Loving one’s self can be quite another story. Both require opening and allowing which for some people is challenging in its own right. Good post topic! Thank you.


  2. Hi Debbie, Your sharing is wonderful and I am sure you could inspire many others to heal in their own process of forgiving and letting go. We owe it to ourselves. I love your blog! I love you.


  3. Forgiving, sometimes it is that one easier said than done. It could be difficult because of our own imperfections as human. But no matter how hard it is, you have to, else it will drag you down. There are times when I am no longer upset, I just stopped caring. Because there are other things and people who deserve my time, love and energy.

    You got some nice blog here dear. 🙂


  4. Forgiving isn’t easy but I try to remember to forgive someone for my well being as well as theirs. That includes forgiving myself! Most of my life I’ve beaten myself up for how I am but as I’ve aged and built a beautiful family, I realized and grown to a different place. I’ve forgiven myself, I like myself and know that Im okay!❤️

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    1. I love all of your posts!! I so appreciate what you’re sharing. Isn’t forgiveness (especially of ourselves) a vulnerable process? Or at least it is for me. 🙂 Anyway, thank you for sending such positive thoughts my way and for the loving wishes. It means a lot. So glad you’re here.<3

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